my ex BPD co worker friend opened up the whole bag of horrors on me the smearing the refusing to communicate the false allegations i would pop off and she would find a way to get me in trouble at work i would try to talk rational and get along for the sake of work and get the common i can get along even though you are the devil push pull speeches so after that i said enough i no longer will tolerate this and have ignored her presence mostly for 2 months and she ignores me back win win , except today i got a hello then five minutes later she addressed me personally about a work incident instead of a third party relay like normal,, i gave non emotional short answers and went on my way ,,but with that "Hello" told me "ok you are bothering me with this" i feel the light bulb has gone off that i am through ... .now i wouldn't suggest to ignore a person at all but for a BPD it seems to be the only way to get them to know your behavior is not acceptable ... .and i wouldn't do it for revenge(though i won't lie seeing a crack in the armor feels kinda good) but to free yourself from the lunacy ... .our sanity our well being our life is to be controlled by us not them... .i don't have the luxury of nc yet but limited has shown me freedom will come
Sounds like you have your head screwed on! Well done for being strong. I hope you only ever increase in strength and get back your sanity and power!
