Great post of encouragement, Getoverit! And so very true.
I think we are often hard on ourselves, beating ourselves up, questioning our actions, thinking if we'd tried harder, we could have fixed things... .or berating ourselves after the r/s ends because we took so long to see the truth and leave. (I know I'm still guilty of this, but getting better.)
Do things that make you happy. If you don't know what that is right now, start exploring. Read a good book, watch a funny movie, spend time with friends. Exercise, get out in nature, cook something wonderful.
Mustbeabetterway, I love what you say about how yoga makes you feel. That's so great that it makes you feel so good. We all need something like that.
What works for me:
Exercise has helped me tremendously. I run a few times a week, and although I'm exhausted afterward, I feel good about myself that I got out and did it. I try to pat myself on the back for small gains--if I cry, it was for a much shorter time, and I wasn't beating myself up, just feeling a bit sad. If I start feeling down about the r/s ending, I remind myself how unhealthy it was for me, and how, as time progresses, I'm making myself whole and healthy again, and at some point will find love again when I'm ready, when the time is right. That's what helps me.
Would anyone else want to share what helps them?