Hello
sugarloaf I join
Faith in welcoming you here
It sounds like you've been through a lot with your daughter and I understand the fear of history repeating itself, having lived with a mother with possible NPD. I'm so sorry you lived in fear, and also glad you are here with us now.
As Faith says,
You have already taken some enormous first steps in beginning to think about boundaries and joining this group.
You will find many other parents who are dealing with similar situations with their children and we are all learning together, supporting each other, as we navigate our emotionally intense relationships. You've come to the right place.
Faith mentioned the link pinned to the top of the board,
HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF THIS SITE and I encourage you to start there. It's got many of our best articles with links to more. Have a look and come back here with any questions or comments, we want to help.
It's important that you have a strong support system and we are happy to be a part of that. Feel free to post in other's threads, it helps to talk about it, to know we are not alone.
Do you have any support in real life? A therapist of your own? Many of us find it helpful to work with a therapist with extensive knowledge of BPD - so much of the work we do here is on ourselves, our own responses. As you know, we cannot change our children, we can only take very good care of ourselves. Setting boundaries is part of that and something we are all learning here.
When you are comfortable, please share more about your situation. It helps us to know how to best support and advise you.
Take good care,
~ OH