tired of arguing and tired of giving in

[Our abuse recovery guide]

I don't know what the balance is between keeping the peace and feeling comfortable in my own home!  My 82-year-old mother had to move in with me because she was asked to leave two facilities within 6 months.  Now she and her BPD have taken over my house. If we don't let her have her way 100% of the time its a knock down drag out fight.  I work from home so there is no place for me to run.

[mamorama88]

I don't know what the balance is between keeping the peace and feeling comfortable in my own home!  My 82-year-old mother had to move in with me because she was asked to leave two facilities within 6 months.  Now she and her BPD have taken over my house. If we don't let her have her way 100% of the time its a knock down drag out fight.  I work from home so there is no place for me to run.

[Harri]

Hi and welcome to the board.  It sounds like you have your hands full.  I am sorry for that but glad you found us as many of us here can relate to having a disordered parent.

What was going on that she was asked to leave the facilities?

Does anyone else live with you? 

I hope to hear more from you.  in the meantime, feel free to jump in and post and read.  We all help each other here.

[GaGrl]

I'm so sorry that you find yourself in this situation. I recently retired and moved into our retirement house, where my 92-year-old mother has been living for three years. She does not have a PD, but there are residual PD traits from having grown up with an uBPD/BPD parent. So we might be navigating similar waters here. My mom does not rage - she pouts, and it blows over in 24 hours.

What options do you have for caregiving?