A year NC and he emailed me.

[Harley Quinn]

I do know what you mean.  That was something I struggled with a great deal myself.  Always being the one to help anyone I'd never been able to stand by and let someone suffer, no matter what they put me through.  To my detriment.  I'm so glad I overcame that, but it was hard with a capital H. 

I'd say your instinct is right on this.  Your preference to 'let go and let God' sounds wise.  You can be reassured by the fact that when it comes to BPD, NOT helping is the bigger kindness.  Only when he no longer has anyone running to his aid will he stop and think about things.  That is the opportunity he needs to take some responsibility for himself and to enact change in his life.  He is a grown man and capable of seeking the right support in the right places just as anyone else.  As long as his old patterns of behaviour work for him and others facilitate that, he has no reason to seek proper help for his condition or to consider making any changes.

We don't have to do everything people suggest.  You can choose to thank your T for their suggestion but it's not for you. 

Your responsibility is to yourself.  What can you do today or tomorrow to create more connection in your life?

Love and light x