Restraining Order expires in July - Should I renew it?

[Wingnut]

Divorce was final December 31st but my restraining order against the BPDExwife expires in July. I have had no contact with her since early December and as far as I know she is still with my replacement.

So do I renew the restraining order or has she moved on for good? We have no children together and there is no legitimate reason for her to contact me.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Wingnut, it seems like there is no current need for a restraining order so I would be inclined to let it expire.  You can always seek another restraining order if anything changes.  My two cents.  LuckyJim

[Sunfl0wer]

Hi Wingnut,

I apologize for not knowing your details... .

How possible is it that the reason your ex has remained NC is in fact, because a RO exists?

Had there not been a RO would she have tried to contact you?

If she breaks up with her current guy, will she change and try to contact you?

Has she tried to contact people who know you?  Or reach out by any other means that you are aware of?

[Sunfl0wer]

Ok, I peeked and read your posts. 

Looks like she has attacked you in your sleep.  You have felt the r/s has caused you anxiety and health/BP issues.

Another aspect to consider... .

Will you be able to continue to sleep as peacefully knowing a RO is lifted?

[Mutt]

Hey Wingnut,

She may not be contacting you because things are going relatively well in the r/s. When she starts to perceive flaws and things become bad, she may very well try to contact. I hope that helps.


----Mutt

[Wingnut]

You all have helped me decide to renew the restraining order.

I think it would be better to be safe than sorry.

[Mutt]

 

I'm happy you sorted that out.

[Lucky Jim]

Good for you, Wingnut.     I was unfamiliar w/your backstory.  Sounds like you made the right decision.   

LuckyJim