I really hope we can get back together with her, with all the necessary changes to make it a healthy relationship, without the dysfunctional BPD, co-dependent mechanisms, as we really love each other beyond all the deficiencies each of us feels we have.
Hey 78, Welcome! What makes you think your Ex has BPD? Fill us in when you get a chance. What do you mean when you say you hope to get back together "without the dysfunctional BPD"? Is it fair to say that you are hoping for a recycle? If so, plenty of us have done it, only to wind up in the same place further down the line, except with more pain.
LuckyJim