balletomane
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« on: May 22, 2016, 07:46:21 PM » |
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It's almost a year since I went no contact with my ex, and over a year since he discarded/replaced me. Overall I'm doing well, but one thing I've noticed that is really bothering me is my ongoing discomfort around hugs and other physical contact. If I meet up with a friend and they spontaneously hug me hello, I go into an awkward 'freeze', I immediately feel wooden, and I feel psychologically distant from the friend. I want the hug to be over as soon as possible, because hugging reminds me of my ex. On the other hand, I miss being able to give and receive hugs without these difficult feelings. I wonder what it will take to lose this fear and for hugs to be liberated from the painful associations they now have. Has anyone ever felt the same, and how did you get past it?
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