AW writes... ."people are responsible for their own behavior toward others."
I've read this many times over the past two years... ."its not BPD that acts abusively, its the person who is BPD that acts abusively,"
Its taken a long time for me to even try to figure this out, is it done consciously, or not?
I've spent years running ahead, "clearing the path"... .trying to prevent the next dysregulation... .but I now understand, if the pw/BPD has it on their heart to be the victim, no matter how much mine clearing you do, they will find one, and then "off they go"... .off into the "victim zone".
Its very sad, and it breaks many hearts.
... .empathy turns to apathy after a while.
Red5