Hello BPD mother 51,
I'm so glad you found us! Living with 2 people with BPD and traits of BPD is so very stressful, confusing, and tiring. Finding a way towards a peaceful place for ourselves is a must for our own sanity. We have lots of skills for self preservation as well as skills to help the ones we love suffering from this disorder.
Do you often attempt to intervene between your husband and daughter and find yourself in a triangle of no win situations?
Maybe this information can help you understand the dynamics and how to change outcomes:
Know Good vs Bad Triangulation
https://bpdfamily.com/parenting/08.htm Has your daughter made suicidal gestures or threats in the past? Has she been in therapy in the past or currently?
I look forward to your response and helping anyway that I am able.
lbjnltx