update on attempted mortgage buyout

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Some of you were kind enough to give me advice last week when my uxBPDh offered to buy me out of our joint mortgage, so I thought I would post an update.  I received the offer last Wed., and I spoke with my attorney on Fri. morning.  We decided it best if we required him to prove that the funds for the buy out were not from any marital assets (we had our final hearing in Feb, and at that time, he swore he did not have the money to give me a lump sum buy our), that I not be required to make any additional mortgage payments (we have been splitting 50/50), and that he pay me by direct deposit.  The buy out was supposed to take place by May 1.  He waited until yesterday to respond, then had his attorney nag my attorney for an immediate reply.  He refused to agree to any of my conditions.  He just wanted to bully me into accepting his.  He made up a bunch of crap about the mortgage and the bank and tried to force me to pay him for April's mortgage even though we have already paid it.  I replied that I had spoken to both the bank and the mortgage company, and that what he said wasn't true, and that I wouldn't agree to anything until my attorney completed her investigation into his finances. 

I received another reply from him this morning.  He sent his arranged online bill pay schedule as proof that I owed mortgage for April, cut and pasted a bunch of garbage onto his bank's letterhead as proof that he could not pay me by any direct transfer method, and offered to sign a sworn affidavit that he was not using marital assets to pay me, but he refused to show where he got the money.  After I finished laughing, I refused his offer.  I am now waiting for the next fireworks show.  The man has lied to me for 35 years.  I watched him lie under oath at our divorce hearing, and now he believes that I will accept his sworn affidavit as the truth.  He really is delusion.  Anybody have any guesses or insight as to what I can expect next?

[ComoLu]

Some of you were kind enough to give me advice last week when my uxBPDh offered to buy me out of our joint mortgage, so I thought I would post an update.  I received the offer last Wed., and I spoke with my attorney on Fri. morning.  We decided it best if we required him to prove that the funds for the buy out were not from any marital assets (we had our final hearing in Feb, and at that time, he swore he did not have the money to give me a lump sum buy our), that I not be required to make any additional mortgage payments (we have been splitting 50/50), and that he pay me by direct deposit.  The buy out was supposed to take place by May 1.  He waited until yesterday to respond, then had his attorney nag my attorney for an immediate reply.  He refused to agree to any of my conditions.  He just wanted to bully me into accepting his.  He made up a bunch of crap about the mortgage and the bank and tried to force me to pay him for April's mortgage even though we have already paid it.  I replied that I had spoken to both the bank and the mortgage company, and that what he said wasn't true, and that I wouldn't agree to anything until my attorney completed her investigation into his finances. 

I received another reply from him this morning.  He sent his arranged online bill pay schedule as proof that I owed mortgage for April, cut and pasted a bunch of garbage onto his bank's letterhead as proof that he could not pay me by any direct transfer method, and offered to sign a sworn affidavit that he was not using marital assets to pay me, but he refused to show where he got the money.  After I finished laughing, I refused his offer.  I am now waiting for the next fireworks show.  The man has lied to me for 35 years.  I watched him lie under oath at our divorce hearing, and now he believes that I will accept his sworn affidavit as the truth.  He really is delusion.  Anybody have any guesses or insight as to what I can expect next?

[ForeverDad]

He might find a relative or a dupe to vouch to being the money source?

[ComoLu]

If my attorney tracks it like they did to me in court, we will have the original deposit checks as well as the bank account the money went into and was withdrawn from.  I went through all of this in court.  Both of my parents passed away shortly after my x left me, and I had to show the checks from the insurance companies and my parents' estate, show the initial opening statements from the bank accounts I started with the funds to prove those monies were not marital assets.  I was clear headed enough to keep everything extremely separated from the start, and there were no questions.  My x challenged every penny of my money, even my grandchildren's college savings account.  I will not accept his buy out unless he goes through the same process with the money he is offering me because I will not have him buy me out with my own money.