How to separate the person from the behavior

[Squirrelman]

Need help separating the person from the illness.

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[Mutt]

Hi Squirrelman,

 

Thanks for joining us! Is your SO diagnosed with BPD? What you learn about BPD can be used in other areas of your life. For example when you learn why a pwBPD act the way that they do you learn that it’s not personal to them it’s something that the person is going through. Depersonalize the behaviours and become indifferent to them, you neither like it or hate it.

Can you give us a backstory it’s going to help us get the whole picture and that will help you too.

[heartandwhole]

Hi Squirrelman,

I'd like to join Mutt in welcoming you to the community. A lot of members have been in your shoes, needing to separate the symptoms of BPD from the person they love.

With information, skills, and understanding, things can get better in your relationship.

When you can, tell us what's going on with you. We're here to support you.

heartandwhole