Loved your rendition of the events, Jedi! That's precious! Whatever works!
The funniest part it that she likely scheduled the procedure that day so that she could be the centre of attention, and be babied that night. Instead it just mellowed her out enough to not care that she wasn't the centre of it all!
In our house, we'd say, God works in mysterious ways!
Merry Wednesday,
c.
Indeed He does, C. Indeed He does.
Today we had Christmas for the rest of the immediate family. Again, it was remarkably low-key. The only things she did were make a few annoying remarks because I kept doing things on my own schedule and my own way instead of exactly when/how she specified. She hates it when she can't program us like robots
Funny you should point out how she likely scheduled the procedure to be the center of attention. She announced a while back that we were not going to exchange gifts this year; we would only do gifts from "Santa" to our disabled son and if anyone else wanted to give something, they could make a donation in someone's name to a charity. Sounds nice, doesn't it?
Except starting around Thanksgiving our closet started filling up with gifts for the entire family. Big, nice gifts. A PS4 for our 20 year old. A PS4! A stereo system for her mother. Her plan apparently was to make sure nobody gave any gifts but "Santa," meaning her!
So I sent word to our married son privately that "the no-gift thing" was a fraud, and go ahead and give whatever they wanted to. I told my mother-in-law and my youngest son the same thing, and I started making a shopping list.
So basically we ended up doing Christmas almost exactly like we always have in terms of gifts. Not only that, but we loaded her up with loot. Her beloved Nook Color tablet died several weeks ago and she has moaned ever since about not being able to afford to replace it (no wonder with all that shopping!). So I scraped together the funds and got her the new deluxe model. She was speechless
I was so proud of my family for not allowing her to run the show, and for being extra generous this year. Every gift, small or large, seemed to be incredibly thoughtful and well-chosen. The funny thing is she was the center of attention, not because she schemed to make herself so, but because she was the Mom, and her family showered her with gifts and love!
Our life certainly isn't a Hallmark movie and I know things will be back to their usual dysfunction shortly. But it was fun to know that at least for a few hours we were able to kill BPD with kindness. Maybe it was just a little Christmas magic
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all, and to all a good night. My prayer is that you all find a little piece of joy somewhere today.
