Hi Tsunamicalm:Welcome!I'm sorry you are having such a tough time.
Should I take her threats seriously? I'm accused of having sex with her daughter every single day. The truth is we have never and are not having sex. We can't even say hi to each because we're afraid of triggering an episode.
What threat(s) is she making?Has your partner been diagnosed with BPD? Is she currently getting any form of treatment - perhaps some therapy?
I'm not clear what the threats are, but best to protect yourself and have a safety plan in place. The link below would be helpful to read.
https://bpdfamily.com/pdfs/safety-first-dv-1.pdfBest to plan for the worst, then hope for the best. Some jealous partners will contact the police and make false charges, so you need to be cautions. Some people record conversations. Even if you need 2-party consent where you live, recordings can help convince the police that you aren't the one who needs to be arrested.
