the two of you are really butting heads.
is it beyond saving? probably not. but thats going to depend on learning a new style when it comes to handling conflict (it will take practice).
the short version is that it sounds like disagreements over what are fairly common relationship issues are pretty explosive. it sounds like she regularly crosses some lines, and there are some things you really want to nip in the bud, like waking you up, calling you impotent, etc. theres a level of disrespect that makes it really, really hard, to get the relationship on a healthier trajectory. at the same time, it sounds like there are some things you say and do (true for all of us) that dont help. thats where you really want to start...this wont be a fast, easy fix, just like the problems didnt start over night.
Disagreed last night on how to handle a teacher report in the school. I asked for a change, teacher did it. Wife didn't like the change. We had discussed before what I felt comfortable saying. She got angry, called me impotent and an ineffective father. Said she plans to threaten school head for not living up to "the deal".
can you elaborate on this? what was the teacher report about? whats the back story ("the deal")? what change did you ask for?
whats the back story on the cameras?