BPD = DIL Dirt

[Blackwing]

This is a first post.

I'm not going to talk about the confusion, frustrations, and helplessness I feel this time, because these emotions are so embedded into, (the DIL's and my) relationship of eight years, it isn't worth it. So much so by now, that boxing gloves are part of her daily attire, as I just try and keep the peace for my S. (You ladies all know the story). It is a super tough job!

(For two years, she has been married to my S). The first gc is arriving next week. (But please don't congratulate me,) because from most of the posts I have read on this website, they don't have a happy ending unfortunately, especially where the gc(plural) are concerned.

Also, I have two cousins, who have shown me a lot. One is in Texas & one in St. Louis, both the dearest women you'd ever meet, but who have been estranged by their DIL from their gks. (One hasn't even met four of hers. (The oldest child is nine)). So bad!

Anyway, today is just an introduction as a mom, MIL, and soon to be gm, who lives with and breathes the drama and damage that a person with BPD can do to a family. More next time. Again just a hello to my 'sisters in sadness'. Thanks for reading, bye.

[kells76]

Hi Blackwing and welcome 

You're among others who get it -- that BPD doesn't just impact the person with BPD, it kind of infiltrates the whole family system and dynamics. It would be so nice to have some family relationships untouched by disorder, especially with kids and grandkids, but that's not what we get (my H's kids' mom has many BPD traits and behaviors).

Post and share as much or as little as feels right to you. We'll be here;

kells76