it would, if you want to close the door.
if not, you could accept the gift and then dispose of it if you really dont want it.
its a peace offering. it may be more than that. its hard to know if you respond with walls up.
very true... I did realize that I cannot get over the hurtful things he said this time especially without an apology... so I said "no thank you" and he told me. "ok no problem."
I talked to my T today and she said that it was probably his way of testing the waters without also being too vulnerable after what he did. But she did say I gave him room for an apology, and he didn't... so she said it's fine for me not to accept a gift especially If it's without an apology. She said that if I were to accept his gift, he may just think that's his version of the apology and he can get over it and move forward (whatever direction we go), and I may never get an apology for it... and I, personally, am not ok with that.
I don't really want that gift in my home to look at and remind me of him day in and day out so I had to decline it no matter how hard it was to hurt his feelings about it (since he made it for me).
But, I decided I'm going to be a bit selfish for once in this r/s and focus on bettering myself and focusing more on what I want/need instead of his wants/needs.
Not sure what will come of it... but I guess for now that's that. Thank you for the advice.