A question

[FigureIt]

This past weekend I had a head cold and so did my uBPDbf. Although, I didn't know he was sick and met him out Friday night... . didn't know he had been sick until I mentioned something about my not feeling well on sat.  Anyways we stayed in the rest of weekend, and it just so happened I got off Monday. My uBPDbf decided to call in sick, so I thought that was nice. 

I have a dog trainer scheduled for this evening and he wants me to reschedule, by telling her we had the flu all weekend. I don't want to reschedule already had to from Friday and don't want to do it another day. His response to me "I'm just digging in. I won't change."   So this is his "tactic" against me when I don't do as he wants... . "I'm digging in."

Not that I want to "win" but there is no point in me doing, planning anything, unless I clear it by him. So I'm feeling a bit controlled and don't know how to respond and react.

I asked him if he had gone to work today would it be an issue that the woman was coming tonight? His response was "no", so I asked then why is it now? His response "I don't know."

Please send any points of guidance because unless I cancel the appointment I'm wrong.

Thank you

Ycul

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[123Phoebe]

You're not wrong, Ycul.  You rescheduled.  The trainer has you on for tonight.  You want to go through with it.  Your bf is the one who is opposed to it and can't even give you a good reason.

Stick with your plans.  The more we 'give in' to irrational behavior the more we're expected to.  He might be mad now, but hey... . so be it.  He'll respect you more in the long run once he realizes that you stand by what you value... . YOU!  And your dog   And your commitment to another person's time, experience and livelihood.