Just Got another call from their Campus detective

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Here's my story: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=271943.0

Guys I got another anxiety attack today. Today I was called again by her college's police department. The head detective there, He told me that "I sent her a friend request on facebook, that her and her mother are keeping tabs on me, that she doesn't want to file charges on me, but she will, she just wants you to leave her the hell alone."

BULLCRAP

I have been looking at her facebook page. It's true. But I DID NOT send her a friend request.

Regardless, it's like she's baiting me! She has never blocked me on facebook. Even now she hasn't! She knows damn well that if she were to block me, I couldn't send her a friend request. She could have done that a long time ago, she knows how to do it, she won't.

SHE WANTS me to screw up. This whole deal about her being so afraid of me, bullcrap. She isn't afraid of me. Not at all, whatsoever. If anyone is afraid of anyone here, it's me afraid of her.

I mean guys, am I wrong, is she not baiting me? She could have so easily blocked me on facebook. That way I wouldn't even be able to search her. She choose not to do that. She knows that I can look at it.

And this whole deal about harassment, well I've looked up the Texas law for harassment.

Yeah, weeks ago I sent her two e-mails. Guys you can all read them: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=271943.0

They are in there.

I have NEVER threatened her. I've never tried to contact her through her phone since everything happened. I've "liked" something of hers on pinterest one time,  at one point, I DID have a fake facebook, but if you read the story, that's actually how I contacted her, I openly admitted that it was me. I deleted that facebook. She INVITED ME TO TEXT HER WHEN I CONTACTED HER THROUGH IT, EVEN THOUGH I EXPLICITLY STATED "THIS IS ACTUALLY REECE, IF YOU WANT JUST TELL ME TO LEAVE YOU ALONE AND I WILL, I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT HAVING THIS".

They don't HAVE CRAP on a harassment case against me.

I'm tired of getting these damned phone calls from their campus police department!

She's manipulating them too! I guarantee you she didn't mention to them that SHE ACTUALLY HAD ONE OF HER FRIENDS ANONYMOUSLY SEND MY MOTHER A PORNOGRAPHIC PICTURE OF ME AND THREATEN MY MOTHER.

God, I want the nightmare to be over.

Every single time I get close, she drags me back in.

She is telling those campus police that she is just so damn afraid of me. And it's all just a crock of you know what. She isn't afraid of me whatsoever.

Did I mess up by not keeping her blocked on FB, Yes. But am I a stalker, a criminal harasser? Have I ever made any sorts of threats against her, tormented her, or targeted her? NO.

Her and her family are just trying to make me suffer and suffer by always threatening a lawsuit on me? Don't you see what I'm saying here! They are literally trying to make me think that at any point in time, she could make me go to jail.

If anyone is harassing anyone here, it's definitely not me.

[Reecer1588]

Here's my story: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=271943.0

Guys I got another anxiety attack today. Today I was called again by her college's police department. The head detective there, He told me that "I sent her a friend request on facebook, that her and her mother are keeping tabs on me, that she doesn't want to file charges on me, but she will, she just wants you to leave her the hell alone."

BULLCRAP

I have been looking at her facebook page. It's true. But I DID NOT send her a friend request.

Regardless, it's like she's baiting me! She has never blocked me on facebook. Even now she hasn't! She knows damn well that if she were to block me, I couldn't send her a friend request. She could have done that a long time ago, she knows how to do it, she won't.

SHE WANTS me to screw up. This whole deal about her being so afraid of me, bullcrap. She isn't afraid of me. Not at all, whatsoever. If anyone is afraid of anyone here, it's me afraid of her.

I mean guys, am I wrong, is she not baiting me? She could have so easily blocked me on facebook. That way I wouldn't even be able to search her. She choose not to do that. She knows that I can look at it.

And this whole deal about harassment, well I've looked up the Texas law for harassment.

Yeah, weeks ago I sent her two e-mails. Guys you can all read them: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=271943.0

They are in there.

I have NEVER threatened her. I've never tried to contact her through her phone since everything happened. I've "liked" something of hers on pinterest one time,  at one point, I DID have a fake facebook, but if you read the story, that's actually how I contacted her, I openly admitted that it was me. I deleted that facebook. She INVITED ME TO TEXT HER WHEN I CONTACTED HER THROUGH IT, EVEN THOUGH I EXPLICITLY STATED "THIS IS ACTUALLY REECE, IF YOU WANT JUST TELL ME TO LEAVE YOU ALONE AND I WILL, I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT HAVING THIS".

They don't HAVE CRAP on a harassment case against me.

I'm tired of getting these damned phone calls from their campus police department!

She's manipulating them too! I guarantee you she didn't mention to them that SHE ACTUALLY HAD ONE OF HER FRIENDS ANONYMOUSLY SEND MY MOTHER A PORNOGRAPHIC PICTURE OF ME AND THREATEN MY MOTHER.

God, I want the nightmare to be over.

Every single time I get close, she drags me back in.

She is telling those campus police that she is just so damn afraid of me. And it's all just a crock of you know what. She isn't afraid of me whatsoever.

Did I mess up by not keeping her blocked on FB, Yes. But am I a stalker, a criminal harasser? Have I ever made any sorts of threats against her, tormented her, or targeted her? NO.

Her and her family are just trying to make me suffer and suffer by always threatening a lawsuit on me? Don't you see what I'm saying here! They are literally trying to make me think that at any point in time, she could make me go to jail.

If anyone is harassing anyone here, it's definitely not me.

[Reecer1588]

I mean though really guys, isn't it harassment in and of itself, by periodically reporting to her police department that I have done something, and then having them threaten me?

Constantly having the worry that even though she says "she doesn't want to file charges on me" ( clearly a lie ),  how is that not harassment?


And I'm looking at my facebook history. I DID NOT send her a friend request. She boldface lied.

[.cup.car]

Document everything and pray she doesnt have a rich daddy who will tell lies for her.

[JRT]

Its all about control and her selling herself as the victim... .mine did the same thing when I tried to call her... .she also had an attorney friend threaten me with a PPO if I tired to EMAIL HER! And that was the week after she disappeared! I think that anyone that is reasonable would have done more than I did to find out where the hell she was and why she ran off. Crazy is the operative term here!

[JRT]

Its all about control and her selling herself as the victim... .mine did the same thing when I tried to call her. She had notified me via text! Mind you, we had never argued... .I NEVER raised my voice nor was there any violence or threat of it. ... .she also had an attorney friend threaten me with a PPO if I tired to EMAIL HER! And that was the week after she disappeared!  I think that anyone that is reasonable would have done more than I did to find out where the hell she was and why she ran off. Crazy is the operative term here!

[Heldfast]

I'd have a chat with a lawyer just in case, get instructions on documentation. Campuses are known for swinging the pendulum too far to look like they're proactive in protecting students, and their admin justice systems have deficiencies.

[clydegriffith]

Reecer, The person you are dealing with sounds like the one i had the grave misfortune of crossing paths with. Just like you, i used to say "I'm the one that should be afraid, not you". Anyhow, as some people know here, i was arrested 4 times in a span of 6 months due to the BPDx making stuff up. We had cross-orders of protection against each other and each time she would make something up to get me arrested, she would call me a few days later crying saying she's sorry or making some crazy demands and then i'd just call the police and tell them she's bothering me and they arrested her.

I would recommend you block her from facebook yourself and any other way you can get in contact with her. It's very very easy for a woman to get a restraining order against a guy and once she does it's like a golden ticker for her to throw you in jail whenever she wants because, and i can't stress this enough: Once there is an order of protection in place and she tells the police you did anything, even if it's not true, you will be arrested. That is the law. There doesn't need any proof just her word.

[.cup.car]

It's very very easy for a woman to get a restraining order against a guy and once she does it's like a golden ticker for her to throw you in jail whenever she wants because, and i can't stress this enough: Once there is an order of protection in place and she tells the police you did anything, even if it's not true, you will be arrested. That is the law. There doesn't need any proof just her word.

Truth. Officers have even agreed with me on this.

[nowwhatz]

I am sorry you are going through this.

I have had some experience with this including having to quash a bogus harassment injunction with an exwife.  It is not worth the aggravation to deal with any of it.

Sounds like the campus police are doing  "knock and talk" over the phone.  If they had reason to believe there is criminal harassment they don't need her to press charges. They are probably tired of hearing from her so they called you so they can tell her that.

I am not sure about TX but most states have civil harassment laws for restraining orders and criminal stalking laws for when there are threats and stalking.  

Here is what you need to do bro to protect yourself from bogus harassment accusations:

1. Block her and anyone associated with her from all social media. Document the date and time.

2. If you have other means of looking at her social media don't look at any of her profiles for at least 90 days or more. The page source on FB page has code making it possible for a smart techie guy to keep tabs of how many times you look at it.  She could tell you to stop looking at the page because it is annoying or feels threatened then if it happens again you could get a restraining order.

3. Block and delete her profile and the profile of her friends and family from any app or phone. Document time and date.

4. Don't make any attempt to contact her again.   If she gets through to you, if her parents or friends get through to you tell them do not contact me again and document time and date.

That should have you covered.  You will not need to worry about anything.

I know what you are going through and have been there. It is super unpleasant and you are in a lot of pain. A similar thing happened to me a couple of years ago and I could not think clearly and made a bunch of bad choices under duress.

You are going to make it through this! But you really have to take stiff measures to protect yourself right now from this person.

[hope2727]

I am sorry you are experiencing this. Have you considered closing your Facebook account completely? It might be worth taking a break from it for now. I might consider changing my phone number as well. Take good care.

[Reecer1588]

I got on the phone with the detective. Been telling him some of my story. And he seemed pleased that I actually opened up to him, told him my story.

He seems actually pretty reasonable. Told me that if she's just been wasting his time, she'd be in trouble. He told me that I sounded actually pretty reasonable.

So over all I'm just glad that finally MY uBPDexgf can no longer just use their campus police simply as a one-sided bully. Seems like finally I can just be honest and tell the story if needed, and I won't get these threats anymore. At least I certainly hope I won't receive them anymore.

[nowwhatz]

I got on the phone with the detective. Been telling him some of my story. And he seemed pleased that I actually opened up to him, told him my story.

He seems actually pretty reasonable. Told me that if she's just been wasting his time, she'd be in trouble. He told me that I sounded actually pretty reasonable.

So over all I'm just glad that finally MY uBPDexgf can no longer just use their campus police simply as a one-sided bully. Seems like finally I can just be honest and tell the story if needed, and I won't get these threats anymore. At least I certainly hope I won't receive them anymore.

That's great Reecer!

It will be hard, I know... .am living it right now, but the best thing you can do is lie low and ignore any more attempts to get at you. 

hang in there!

[Reecer1588]

I got on the phone with the detective. Been telling him some of my story. And he seemed pleased that I actually opened up to him, told him my story.

He seems actually pretty reasonable. Told me that if she's just been wasting his time, she'd be in trouble. He told me that I sounded actually pretty reasonable.

So over all I'm just glad that finally MY uBPDexgf can no longer just use their campus police simply as a one-sided bully. Seems like finally I can just be honest and tell the story if needed, and I won't get these threats anymore. At least I certainly hope I won't receive them anymore.

That's great Reecer!

It will be hard, I know... .am living it right now, but the best thing you can do is lie low and ignore any more attempts to get at you.  

hang in there!

Well as a part of our conversation I did mention to the detective, "you know, if she really didn't want me to friend her on facebook, why has SHE never blocked ME on facebook. I told him that she is clearly baiting me. I talked about how I wanted to move on with my life. His response was just "well you have good points"

So I mean, I don't know. He told me that he would only contact me if indeed charges were being filed. He also told me that unless that happens to not worry about it.

So I guess we'll see. He has my story now. I sure hope that I don't get another call.

But guys I know her. I know that she isn't done with me.

It's funny now I know I shouldn't have done this, but most all of the evidence I had showing how much she had attacked me over text I have deleted.

Yet I know that she has all the messages still. She has to, otherwise she wouldn't have cited my messages in e-mails to the detective.

I think you all know that she isn't done. I don't know what else to do though. In a way she is still winning.

She's been winning with this whole thing. Constantly holding these threats of filing charges on me. Getting phone calls from her campus police.

I mean I get it. she probably has a mental disorder. But she STILL makes those choices to not just drop it and do what she said she would, what she keeps telling everyone she wants from me! Leave me alone!

[blissful_camper]

I agree with the advice others have given and it's great you provided more insight for campus PD.  Now it's time for you to watch out for you.   For your own protection, block her on everything.  Fly well below her radar so she finds another target.  Get yourself out of her script. 

[Reecer1588]

I agree with the advice others have given and it's great you provided more insight for campus PD.  Now it's time for you to watch out for you.   For your own protection, block her on everything.  Fly well below her radar so she finds another target.  Get yourself out of her script. 

What sucks though is that I have no idea what she has said in her e-mails about me. Even now, even after directly hearing from the detective that were she wasting his time, she would be the one getting in trouble, not me (Which I know that if he knew everything, he would certainly see that it is indeed a waste of his time), Well basically I have no idea what is going on.

I have no idea what she has said, or which texts of mine to her she has used as evidence against me.

It all gives me a great feeling of anxiety because my future is uncertain.

And really, I don't want to hurt this girl I did love and still care about.

Do I want her to get charges filed back on her were the campus police to find that she had wasted their time? I guess. I don't know. She brought me to that.

At this point I guess it really does go one of two ways.

1. I get harassment charges from her, as in the detective doesn't believe or think my side of the story is important, and does file charges with the county prosecutor.

2. She gets charges filed on her for wasting all their times.

I don't know what is going to happen. That's what makes me so anxious.

Knowing her, she's STILL just waiting for me to screw up.

I mean has she nothing better to do that fetter over me and write email correspondences making me out to be this creepy stalker?

[nowwhatz]

Reecer,

I know how much you are hurting.  You need to step back away from this for your own safety.

Who cares what she may or may not be writing about you in emails.  If she is smearing you she will expose herself.  It is really best if you stay out of the fray.   Because she is being a pest to the police to try to aggravate you does not mean there are any grounds for harrassent charges against her.

As long as you step away from this and stay under the radar you will be fine.

When we are in this emotionally charged state we are prone to doing things we wouldn't normally do, especially if we really loved and cared for the ex... .BPD or not.

The courts will generally favor women in these situations for obvious reasons but as long as you lie low, let her be the one ranting and raving no harm will come your way. 

I am sorry you are going through this.

[Reecer1588]

Reecer,

I know how much you are hurting.  You need to step back away from this for your own safety.

Who cares what she may or may not be writing about you in emails.  If she is smearing you she will expose herself.  It is really best if you stay out of the fray.   Because she is being a pest to the police to try to aggravate you does not mean there are any grounds for harrassent charges against her.

As long as you step away from this and stay under the radar you will be fine.

When we are in this emotionally charged state we are prone to doing things we wouldn't normally do, especially if we really loved and cared for the ex... .BPD or not.

The courts will generally favor women in these situations for obvious reasons but as long as you lie low, let her be the one ranting and raving no harm will come your way.  

I am sorry you are going through this.

Thank you for your support. I didn't mean to presume some grandiose notion of her getting harassment charges back.

Actually, and this is what the detective simply said in effect "If we find she's been wastin our time, she could get in trouble for that"

That was my only point on that.

It just sucks to think that she has just been able to go on and on with CP. But it's nice to know that the detective wasn't unreasonable. Almost sounded like he was tired of getting her e-mails... .

[Infared]

I am sorry you are going through this.

I have had some experience with this including having to quash a bogus harassment injunction with an exwife.  It is not worth the aggravation to deal with any of it.

Sounds like the campus police are doing  "knock and talk" over the phone.  If they had reason to believe there is criminal harassment they don't need her to press charges. They are probably tired of hearing from her so they called you so they can tell her that.

I am not sure about TX but most states have civil harassment laws for restraining orders and criminal stalking laws for when there are threats and stalking.  

Here is what you need to do bro to protect yourself from bogus harassment accusations:

1. Block her and anyone associated with her from all social media. Document the date and time.

2. If you have other means of looking at her social media don't look at any of her profiles for at least 90 days or more. The page source on FB page has code making it possible for a smart techie guy to keep tabs of how many times you look at it.  She could tell you to stop looking at the page because it is annoying or feels threatened then if it happens again you could get a restraining order.

3. Block and delete her profile and the profile of her friends and family from any app or phone. Document time and date.

4. Don't make any attempt to contact her again.   If she gets through to you, if her parents or friends get through to you tell them do not contact me again and document time and date.

That should have you covered.  You will not need to worry about anything.

I know what you are going through and have been there. It is super unpleasant and you are in a lot of pain. A similar thing happened to me a couple of years ago and I could not think clearly and made a bunch of bad choices under duress.

You are going to make it through this! But you really have to take stiff measures to protect yourself right now from this person.

+1000

I would take the situation very seriously and do all of the above immediately.

(I also want to ad that she is Bat$hit Crazy! Please protect yourself!  )

You have caused some of the problem... .that's OK... .at the time you did not know who you were dealing with... so just forgive yourself, see her for who she REALLY is (as painful as that may be), and take every measure to protect YOURSELF and move forward with your life. You do not need to convince her or anyone else about the truth, right now. That just makes for more contact. Just step away from this. Now. It is ALL about power and control for her.

Protect you and just disassociate yourself from her dramarama.

Sometimes life is very unfair. Just roll with it, unfortunately... .

Total NC is a must. Good luck!

[Infared]

X

[CloseToFreedom]

Hey Reecer, I've been following your topics and I want to chip in, try to steer as far away as possible from this mess. I know its very hard and part of you still feels attatched to her, especially since she's keeping the attachment alive with this bull___ she's pulling on you. But try to stay off her radar completely. This is important, because this could end up very bad. You talking with the detective was a good move though, good on you.

[Reecer1588]

Hey Reecer, I've been following your topics and I want to chip in, try to steer as far away as possible from this mess. I know its very hard and part of you still feels attatched to her, especially since she's keeping the attachment alive with this bull she's pulling on you. But try to stay off her radar completely. This is important, because this could end up very bad. You talking with the detective was a good move though, good on you.

Thank you for following my topics. I also made contact with one of her ex bfs... .A really good guy, works withkids in a church. He confirmed that although not as severe, a lot of the same things she did to me she did to him. Pretty powerful stuff I could use were crap to hit the fan.

My only question, why does she always assert that she wants me to "leave her the hell alone" but then continues to bait me back in?

[CloseToFreedom]

Hey Reecer, I've been following your topics and I want to chip in, try to steer as far away as possible from this mess. I know its very hard and part of you still feels attatched to her, especially since she's keeping the attachment alive with this bull she's pulling on you. But try to stay off her radar completely. This is important, because this could end up very bad. You talking with the detective was a good move though, good on you.

Thank you for following my topics. I also made contact with one of her ex bfs... .A really good guy, works withkids in a church. He confirmed that although not as severe, a lot of the same things she did to me she did to him. Pretty powerful stuff I could use were crap to hit the fan.

My only question, why does she always assert that she wants me to "leave her the hell alone" but then continues to bait me back in?

I had the same question, and the only thing I could phantom is that their actions speak louder than words. They say they want to be left alone but they want to know they still have power over you, a connection. It must be confusing as hell to have this internal battle constantly like they do.

[Reecer1588]

I am sorry you are going through this.

I have had some experience with this including having to quash a bogus harassment injunction with an exwife.  It is not worth the aggravation to deal with any of it.

Sounds like the campus police are doing  "knock and talk" over the phone.  If they had reason to believe there is criminal harassment they don't need her to press charges. They are probably tired of hearing from her so they called you so they can tell her that.

I am not sure about TX but most states have civil harassment laws for restraining orders and criminal stalking laws for when there are threats and stalking.  

Here is what you need to do bro to protect yourself from bogus harassment accusations:

1. Block her and anyone associated with her from all social media. Document the date and time.

2. If you have other means of looking at her social media don't look at any of her profiles for at least 90 days or more. The page source on FB page has code making it possible for a smart techie guy to keep tabs of how many times you look at it.  She could tell you to stop looking at the page because it is annoying or feels threatened then if it happens again you could get a restraining order.

3. Block and delete her profile and the profile of her friends and family from any app or phone. Document time and date.

4. Don't make any attempt to contact her again.   If she gets through to you, if her parents or friends get through to you tell them do not contact me again and document time and date.

That should have you covered.  You will not need to worry about anything.

I know what you are going through and have been there. It is super unpleasant and you are in a lot of pain. A similar thing happened to me a couple of years ago and I could not think clearly and made a bunch of bad choices under duress.

You are going to make it through this! But you really have to take stiff measures to protect yourself right now from this person.

+1000

I would take the situation very seriously and do all of the above immediately.

(I also want to ad that she is Bat$hit Crazy! Please protect yourself!  )

You have caused some of the problem... .that's OK... .at the time you did not know who you were dealing with... so just forgive yourself, see her for who she REALLY is (as painful as that may be), and take every measure to protect YOURSELF and move forward with your life. You do not need to convince her or anyone else about the truth, right now. That just makes for more contact. Just step away from this. Now. It is ALL about power and control for her.

Protect you and just disassociate yourself from her dramarama.

Sometimes life is very unfair. Just roll with it, unfortunately... .

Total NC is a must. Good luck!

Ha have you been reading my stories and updates and came to that conclusion? Just curious.

[Infared]

I am sorry you are going through this.

I have had some experience with this including having to quash a bogus harassment injunction with an exwife.  It is not worth the aggravation to deal with any of it.

Sounds like the campus police are doing  "knock and talk" over the phone.  If they had reason to believe there is criminal harassment they don't need her to press charges. They are probably tired of hearing from her so they called you so they can tell her that.

I am not sure about TX but most states have civil harassment laws for restraining orders and criminal stalking laws for when there are threats and stalking.  

Here is what you need to do bro to protect yourself from bogus harassment accusations:

1. Block her and anyone associated with her from all social media. Document the date and time.

2. If you have other means of looking at her social media don't look at any of her profiles for at least 90 days or more. The page source on FB page has code making it possible for a smart techie guy to keep tabs of how many times you look at it.  She could tell you to stop looking at the page because it is annoying or feels threatened then if it happens again you could get a restraining order.

3. Block and delete her profile and the profile of her friends and family from any app or phone. Document time and date.

4. Don't make any attempt to contact her again.   If she gets through to you, if her parents or friends get through to you tell them do not contact me again and document time and date.

That should have you covered.  You will not need to worry about anything.

I know what you are going through and have been there. It is super unpleasant and you are in a lot of pain. A similar thing happened to me a couple of years ago and I could not think clearly and made a bunch of bad choices under duress.

You are going to make it through this! But you really have to take stiff measures to protect yourself right now from this person.

+1000

I would take the situation very seriously and do all of the above immediately.

(I also want to ad that she is Bat$hit Crazy! Please protect yourself!  )

You have caused some of the problem... .that's OK... .at the time you did not know who you were dealing with... so just forgive yourself, see her for who she REALLY is (as painful as that may be), and take every measure to protect YOURSELF and move forward with your life. You do not need to convince her or anyone else about the truth, right now. That just makes for more contact. Just step away from this. Now. It is ALL about power and control for her.

Protect you and just disassociate yourself from her dramarama.

Sometimes life is very unfair. Just roll with it, unfortunately... .

Total NC is a must. Good luck!

Ha have you been reading my stories and updates and came to that conclusion? Just curious.

Yes... .I have pretty much read every thing that you posted... .There is just no fighting this "fairly".  The woman ALWAYS has the upper hand in situations like this... .at least in the beginning... .  if they show their cards enough it can come back on them. The best way to get them to show THEIR cards is to just do nothing. (getting legal advice, etc. can't hurt but I am talking about no contact with her, her family and friends... not in person, electronically, using a friends facebook etc... .etc... just stop it all... .it will be better for you).   There just is nothing to be done here. I know you feel to a degree that you want to defend yourself or convince them... etc... .but just let it go.  It does not matter what she says about you unless the police act on it... .and you have no control over what she does right now, or anytime for that matter.  Try not to live in the negative future. Try to catch yourself when you start to think like that... .

Just take care of you. Love you. Learn from this and grow.

If she files an order... .then deal with that then... .

Do exactly what nowwhatz says... .

You met a girl... .you fell in love ... .and it turned into this mess. Its never what you wanted... never.  ... but here it is.  I suffered though this, too. You are spinning around in this right now and it is harder for you to see clearly and make good decisions because of your emotions... .and she will do what she can to ramp yours up to feed her sick needs.  It about attention, control, power... .there is no love there my friend. None.

I have been through the ringer with this stuff. I had no legal problems... .but only because I sucked up all the pain (I almost committed suicide) and did not contact mine. It took a few months... .but I threw the cleaver down. NC.  I never looked at on went on Facebook again.

Too much fake BS there. Just my opinion.  Look at all of the pain this is causing you.  I got caught up in this too with a sick person.  Life is just unfair sometimes... .No one plans it. I suffered severly, still do at times... .but I no longer ever interact with her in any way... .It just makes things worse for me. always.

[blissful_camper]

Thank you for following my topics. I also made contact with one of her ex bfs... .A really good guy, works withkids in a church. He confirmed that although not as severe, a lot of the same things she did to me she did to him. Pretty powerful stuff I could use were crap to hit the fan.

My only question, why does she always assert that she wants me to "leave her the hell alone" but then continues to bait me back in?

Put yourself before her.  Make your own sense of wellness and protection more important than your ex.  Drop your end of the rope.  The dance ends when you do.  Your goal is to not allow the situation to worsen.  Reaching out to mutual contacts could backfire on you should he decide to share with her that you reached out to him.  You have the power to end this mess. 

[clydegriffith]

I would advise against getting into any in-depth conversations with the detective.

And she most certainly won't get in trouble for lying to the cops. Although men are hunted down like animals and presumed guilty after just an allegation, it's become common practice for prosecutors to let females off when it's clear they lied about something for fear that arresting women for this would discourage "real" victims from coming forward in the future. This doesn't make sense to me but it's our reality.

[Reecer1588]

I would advise against getting into any in-depth conversations with the detective.

And she most certainly won't get in trouble for lying to the cops. Although men are hunted down like animals and presumed guilty after just an allegation, it's become common practice for prosecutors to let females off when it's clear they lied about something for fear that arresting women for this would discourage "real" victims from coming forward in the future. This doesn't make sense to me but it's our reality.

Appreciate it. Actually I updated a thread about the new email, the detective didn't take sides. Just said that it didn't seem I intended any harm, he told her to not try and contact me, even accidently, and he said most importantly that he wasn't going to put much more time into the case.

This was a huge improvement from her just being able to wield the CP as a weapon to threaten me.