Late recovery as a borderline

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Well it is a release to have processed the abandonment at the core. It took a long time to get here. Many years of sobriety and breaking away from my family of origin. The break is what finally released the remaining compulsions i had and i feel free.  I started DBT group again to help with the grief and so i would not reconnect for sometime if ever. I went snow sking down a black ski hill that was challenging but worth the risk. I was by myself in the forest and took is slow and easy and felt my courage.

[Borderlinestar]

Well it is a release to have processed the abandonment at the core. It took a long time to get here. Many years of sobriety and breaking away from my family of origin. The break is what finally released the remaining compulsions i had and i feel free.  I started DBT group again to help with the grief and so i would not reconnect for sometime if ever. I went snow sking down a black ski hill that was challenging but worth the risk. I was by myself in the forest and took is slow and easy and felt my courage.

[hope2727]

congratulations

Sounds like you are well on your way.

[Naughty Nibbler]

BORDERLINESTAR:
Congrats on your accomplishments!  Best wishes with processing your grief.  Going back to your DBT group, sounds like a good approach to manage things. There are many other here who are processing grief.  It can be a painful process, so it's good that you are reaching out to others. I'm thinking most people would find skiing the black hill easier than breaking free from their FOO or other type of relationship.  Was that the case for you?