my BP-friend FINALLY got institutionalised today... .he was on a waiting list for many months so it was big time
he left rather happy, hoping that this will be the start of his new life.
I didn't get the chance to say goodbye, and he said he didn't want me to visit him because he doesn't want me to see him sitting amongst "those morrons" (he's always very concerned about what kind of image I keep of him when I leave)
I was thinking of sending him a postcard with a nice text on it but yesterday I was in a bookshop and I came across a small "fill in" booklet which I rather liked: each page consisting one line you have to complete that is telling something nice about the person you give it to
it has phrases like:
- what I really like about you is... .
- you are very talented in... .
- I remember we had a nice time when... .
- you 're very sexy when wearing... .
- you are so funny when... .
etc... .
I was spontaneously thinking this could be an upper for his self-image and something to hold on when things are going bad, but with pwBPD you never know do you ?
does this sound like a good idea or do you remark any hidden traps here ?
could it be invalidating for someone with low self-esteem who is facing a rather turbulent and probably stressfull new episode in his life ?
what if they keep him there for a longer time than he thinks, could it be sounding sarcastic in his ears in the given situation ?