I have finally got a new job and they even offered me more money to go work for them so that's been a real boost and I am really looking forward to starting it fairly soon.
Staying calm is another thing I'm trying to work on. I am still too affected by his actions/contact.
Very nice, having the courage to seek out a new job is great. Working on your "calm" is a good attribute to work on. What coping skills are you using?
And on the flip side, in the little flags list, what little flags have you noticed in yourself and what have they told you about you? I'll go first, for me it was unintentionally seeking out unhealthy partners. I have codependent tendencies so I have a history of finding partners I could save. (we can go outside the small list you have above)
Looking at flags and attributes in ourselves helps us see them in others. It's an interesting side effect of a working recovery.