Hi everyone,
My husband (46 Male) has a 8 year old son who he shares with his BPD ex partner (36 Female). She was diagnosed in 2012 with BPD and at the beginning of this relationship, he told me she was suicidal and made several attempts on her life. My husband and his ex moved out of state to my husbands home state as requested by his ex, she did not want to raise their son around her own family and wanted to move away which they did. They separated just after the child was 1 years old and had shared parenting (50/50) my husband was the primary caregiver of their son. 8 year old child has asthma and constipation problems which he had from birth. She has struggled his whole life to medicate the child appropriately and believes he doesn’t need medication at all, my husband and his mother and cousin all supported her best they could to help her manage his medication and help manage caring for the child in his best interests.July 2024 she took full custody of their son and has a protection order against my husband and is accusing him of domestic violence. The past year has been a long standing battle with her and she has not let my husband have unsupervised time with the child. A family report was written up stating she was held in state against her will and that she wants to move back where she is from, my husbands lawyer has replied that we are willing to move and now she is self repenting herself for court and family dispute resolution. Ex partners mother has undiagnosed BPD and viscously controls her daughters life. My husband has supervised visits every fortnight for 2 hours at a family centre which are horrible, the supervisors hover over child and parent, tell him what to say, yell at him in front of child- horrible centre in my opinion. Anyway, my husband is concerned for child as he comes in very pale, almost out of breath and her has soiled himself in the centre a few times. Child has told my husband he is scared to use the toilet or ask to go as “it hurts” ( mother not medicating child for constipation or asthma) He told my husband that mummy does not give him puffers or Ventolin which we are extremely concerned about. His ex is attacking my husbands ADHD and masked bipolar disorder and saying he is unfit to parent. My husband has completed every court ordered programme and has done hair follicle testing every 3 months to show her he is clean, he is trying his best to get supervised time lifted. Some advice would be great please


