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I kept track for a few years but it eventually faded from my mind. It was very hard getting over her for some reason (now I understand why because we see all the patterns). ...
I kept track for a few years but it eventually faded from my mind. It was very hard getting over her for some reason (now I understand why because we see all the patterns). ...
I don't think I ever seriously dated anyone who was BPD before I eventually met my (now ex-) wife. But I had a couple close calls where I had a date or two, or we spoke on the phone and then for whatever reason she moved on or told me she wasn't interested. A couple of those stuck with me, mainly the more attractive ones, because I wondered what I could've done differently and what it would've been like.
But then, having the experience I did and getting divorced, when one of those "close calls" reached out, I realized by her dodgy behavior, and quick temper that I suspected I was dealing with BPD, and wonder how many times I got lucky and dodged a bullet (before eventually catching one). I think in some of those situations, I was just a branch they decided not to swing on for whatever reason, and like you saw, they weren't very honest and up front about their dating situation and past relationships.
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Anyway, a few year later I walk into a gas station, and the attendent is the guy she left me for. Instantly I want to punch him, LOL, but I keep quiet and hope he doesn't recognize me. I get to the counter and he says, "Hey, didn't you used to date <girl's name>." I said yes, anticipating a confrontation.
But then the guy says, "Hey, you should join our Facebook group!" I was lost- what Facebook group?
He then proceeds to tell me that there were over 30 people in a Facebook group called "girl's name + ex's". She lied to all of us about herself and everyone else, and when a few of them finally met and started putting together the facts, they actually made the group. I didn't even know what to think about that so I never joined, but OMG...you talk about validation! There were over 30 of us and she would have been like 24 years old at this time.
Anyway, a few year later I walk into a gas station, and the attendent is the guy she left me for. Instantly I want to punch him, LOL, but I keep quiet and hope he doesn't recognize me. I get to the counter and he says, "Hey, didn't you used to date <girl's name>." I said yes, anticipating a confrontation.
But then the guy says, "Hey, you should join our Facebook group!" I was lost- what Facebook group?
He then proceeds to tell me that there were over 30 people in a Facebook group called "girl's name + ex's". She lied to all of us about herself and everyone else, and when a few of them finally met and started putting together the facts, they actually made the group. I didn't even know what to think about that so I never joined, but OMG...you talk about validation! There were over 30 of us and she would have been like 24 years old at this time.
this is awesome, and a pretty healthy way to deal with someone like that.
Spreading awareness is the best revenge. Did she eventually move away? I imagine if she knew the reputation she had, her first move would be to run away where she could start it all over again (because getting help and changing is actual work).


