Hi JazzSinger, I read again with great interest your interaction with your BPDH as I believe we are all of a similar age group.
I do get moments of thinking I would be better off alone but then like you the practicalities of life come to my attention. I know I couldn’t give up my home and lifestyle with my adult kids and my darling grand children to go it alone in reduced income and circumstances. So I manage to live as best I can amidst the turmoil and disregs BPD brings into my life. Of course if there was violence involved that would be a different thing. Does your husband threaten or has he hit you.?
Hope things go more smoothly for you again after this period of intense disruption.
All best
I do get moments of thinking I would be better off alone but then like you the practicalities of life come to my attention. I know I couldn’t give up my home and lifestyle with my adult kids and my darling grand children to go it alone in reduced income and circumstances. So I manage to live as best I can amidst the turmoil and disregs BPD brings into my life. Of course if there was violence involved that would be a different thing. Does your husband threaten or has he hit you.?
Hope things go more smoothly for you again after this period of intense disruption.
All best
Hi townhouse,
Thanks for sharing. I totally agree. I too have grandchildren. Even though they’re far away, a breakup with their grandpa would disrupt my relationships with them as well, not to mention our adult children.
Bottomline,
I’m handling him much better now. I am more detached than ever before. It’s his loss, and his fault — How could I love him, after all of the abuse? But I have my own friends, and my own life. He can’t take that away from me.
Thanks again.
Jazz


