While you've received some great advice on the marriage/divorce/custody stuff, I want to take a different approach and focus solely on you for a moment. What's best for Jack today?
You might say, to have your kids back. Okay, I completely understand...but that's not in the card for today. That's not a possibility until you go through several additional steps mandated by the courts. So that's not where we start or devote all our energy. What's actually best for Jack today?
In my opinion, you need work and you need a stable home. There's no way to eventually get the kids back without those two things. You also need to deal with the trama you've gone through and learn from it so history never repeats itself.
It's easy to see yourself as a victim and the stuff that happened is terrible. That's all past tense though and we can't change any of it, so it shouldn't be your focus. All you can actually do is focus on what's best for Jack today.
Therapy, work, stable home. Those should be the top three priorities. Everything else is just pulling you away from those three things that will eventually bring your children back. Hopefully that makes sense.


