I don't leave a trail of bodies behind me. And my support group isn't even mad at her; they're just focused on how I'm doing. Moving to a restorative place.
Thank you all so much for being a sounding board. I have a lot of weeks left of therapy, of thinking, and of trying to figure out where all the holes in my body and brain are.
Thank you all so much for being a sounding board. I have a lot of weeks left of therapy, of thinking, and of trying to figure out where all the holes in my body and brain are.
Your wife is not a bad person- she's sick. That's the realization we all eventually come to 12 months, 18 months, 36 months later. But there's a lot of gut-wrenching emotions before you get there; it's a process andthat's where you'll end up eventually as well.
She does what she does because she's sick and unstable. It's heartbreaking for everyone involved and there's no winners or losers. Everyone loses in divorce. I hope something changes and the relationship can be saved. The odds are against that, but still, I always root for the happy ending for the kids sakes. You absolutely have to put yourself first though and the kids will adjust as you adjust.
Your wife can still come around and make real efforts, but you'll have to let this play out. Try not to lash out in retaliation, try to show compassion whenever possible. Trust me, it helps regardless of the path forward. I divorced without lawyers and remained in our home until it sold. That's super uncommon, but it is possible if you can find a way to communicate on the other side of all the disordered stuff. Again, it takes time and it's a process.
Just remember what I've kept repeating- she's sick and the mental hammer is unforgiving. I feel for her just like I feel for my ex. I'm glad you're making more permanent arrangements though and taking control. It seems like you're walking away, but that's not entirely true. In reality, you're trying to end the conflict and that's where restoration can start. It also happens to be the first step in divorce as well.
Hang in there, I know it's unbearable but time is on your side.



). Pregnancy was a break from certain topics and fighting was less frequent and more about household issues. I knew it was temporary, I never doubted it. Now back to sexuality related topics. I am a 100 % bad person due to my actions in relation to those topics.