Really llike my dd while she is on house arrest

[peaceplease]

I really like my dd while she is on house arrest.  I hope she continues to be the person that she is now.  Currently, she can not take any drugs because she is tested, randomly.  Also, she was recently incarcerated for one month.  While in jail, she was no longer getting her daily methadone dose.  She chose to not return to clinic.  She has gone through some wicked withdrawal.  I am so proud of her for fighting the battle. 

I am so amazed how she has grown up.  She tells me everyday how much she appreciates me.  She is no longer crying about being a victim.

She wrote me a beautiful letter.  And, she mentioned that she hopes she continues to deal with things when she is off house arrest.   And, maybe all the bad things had to happen to wake her up.  *(her words)  She is praying more.  She started reading the bible in jail.  She is very interested in the mini series.

She has been taking seroquel and managing without drugs.  I bought her some mega vitamins to help withdrawal.  Darn methadone has a very long half life.  It will be months before she gets any energy.

She is off house arrest April 5.  I hope that she continues on this path.  Too early to say "she got this", but it may be the start.  Fingers crossed.

 

peaceplease

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Reality]

peaceplease,

Such good news for you and your dd!

Reality

[lbjnltx]

Hello peaceplease,

So wonderful to see you here and to hear such good news.  I hope these life lessons continue to have meaning for your d and give her the motivation to not make the same mistakes in the future.

Is she able to attend NA meeting?  If not now then hopefully she will when her house arrest is over... .  to help her with her sobriety and her spiritual life.

Joy and peace to you all!

 

lbj

[vivekananda]

it's wonderful to hear good news   so pleased for you peaceplease,

Vivek    

[jellibeans]

it is good to hear some good news for a change... .  so happy for your dd... .  how happy you must be to see this kind of progress... .  wishing you both a good future... .  I think it would be nice if we all tried to post more positive posts... .  sometimes when I come to the board it can be so depressing... .  thanks for posting... .  it gives me hope and that is something we can all use... .  

[qcarolr]

so glad for your D that she is able to be reflective during this 'quiet time' she is in. My DD also did really well while on her 45 days house arrest. And though she is not totally on board with her continuing probation, she is trying. She is thinking. She knows the risks she takes. She is being a part of the family. The house arrest was last Nov.

And for you - some peace for you at last. Enjoy ... .  

qcr  

[griz]

How wonderful. It sounds like such progress and I agree it is so good to hear such positive news.

Griz

[Thursday]

Well, peaceplease, this is such awesome news... .  I think every time our kids gain some clarity it is a step forward.

lbj mentions NA. AA is also for drug addicts as well as being more widely available AND there are typically more meetings. If you can get your dd to go, she will be met immediately with people who understand, deeply understand, her addiction and will have strategies to help her.

My SD started with AA through a drug treatment councelor. See if you can get a recommendation from someone who knows about the meetings in your area. The man who guided us was able to tell SD which meeting had the most people her age, activities, the most "attractive" fellowship and it was such a great fit she still has this meeting as her home group. He was able to match her with a sponsor, suggested early in the process that she begin calling this woman.

And he was right. This particulat sponsor really sees through SD's "fanciful moments" and keeps her on track (if SD chooses to communicate with her), SD's sponsor gives her the same sort of advice we would give her were she to ask. Sponsor tells her to "shut up and listen" and SD takes this from sponsor because sponsor "has been there".

Good luck... .  this is a real crossroad. Your DD can improve how she manages her life if she is not using!

AS of tomorrow, SD will be two years sober. She still has issues, many issues. But if she were using we would have NO HOPE. Now, we have nothing BUT hope for her.

 

thursday

[twojaybirds]

Sweet.