Tomorrow is my xBPDgf's birthday...

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

 Not looking forward to tomorrow.  Its her b-day.  I've had enough of the triggers ,holidays now this. Trying to stay positive, and absolutely positively N/C. I am thinking about her less and less but the thoughts are still with me. I have moments of strength and weakness, tears and happiness. It is tough and I will prevail.  Healing from a love lose even a horrible one is not easy.  Any suggestions on this matter? 

[sun seeker]

 Not looking forward to tomorrow.  Its her b-day.  I've had enough of the triggers ,holidays now this. Trying to stay positive, and absolutely positively N/C. I am thinking about her less and less but the thoughts are still with me. I have moments of strength and weakness, tears and happiness. It is tough and I will prevail.  Healing from a love lose even a horrible one is not easy.  Any suggestions on this matter? 

[santa]

Don't drink and try to think about something else. It'll be over soon enough and then you'll be free and clear... . until Valentine's Day.

[sun seeker]

  Thanks santa.

I don't drink no worries on that. I work tomorrow so that's a good thing. Probably will take a ride on my sportbike that usually helps.

I forgot about Valentine's day thanks bro...    

[santa]

  Thanks santa.

I don't drink no worries on that. I work tomorrow so that's a good thing. Probably will take a ride on my sportbike that usually helps.

I forgot about Valentine's day thanks bro...    

LOL

Yeah, this Valentine's Day will be particularly difficult since we had such a great one last year.

The BCS title game is on tomorrow night, so you can always watch that.

[RecycledNoMore]

Chevy mate

Stick pandora on full boar, take a ride on your bike, ( carefully),enjoy your freedom.

[goldylamont]

and remember to not get weak and try to reach out and call or text her and tell her anything like you "hope she is happy", etc. this to her will mean that she was justified in treating you like she did and embolden her to abuse more.

[Aussie0zborn]

Her birthday? So what? Nothing to do with you. She can celebrate with one of those guys she more than likely had hanging around (the ones you don't know about).

Valentines' Day? So what? Nothing to do with you. She'll be busy with the next host anyway, but she might find an opportunity while his back is turned to try a recycle. If not with you then with the guy before you. Or the one before that.

Maybe you just need to keep busy too. Keep away from and don't answer the phone, any texts or emails. Don't stalk her on Facebook either. Nothing to do with you, remember?

Good luck on your road to recovery.

[sun seeker]

  Thanks all... .

  I appreciate the support. I've changed my phone# and blocked her on facebook and I never check my email.  Im actually doing pretty well  So far today. Ive been n/c for 6 weeks, and have no desire to reopen that wound. I was just worried about my thoughts and feelings on this day. i already know she on to someone else. Im passed those thoughts. Ive accepted this now I'm on to forgiveness.

You guys are awesome thanks for being thier in my time of need... .

[Aussie0zborn]

Glad to hear you've taken your situation on board and are dealing with it. Yes, you will have those thoughts but they do pass. Hang in there. Every day of NC brings you closer to detoxing completely.

I've just realised my soon to be ex wife's birthday was two months ago and I don't remember even thinking about it. Maybe I was just too damn busy!