Another morning from Hell

[CryingOut4Help]

My husband has been having an episode ever since Saturday when he won an award and felt I didn't praise him enough for it.

I've pretty much been keeping quiet and only talking to him about things pertaining to our 5yo son.  Last night he came home and started talking to himself calling me names and stuff again.  Then he was telling our son how he's going to be leaving soon and he could come visit him and how he has a new girlfriend (this isn't the first time he's told our son he's leaving).  That is my trigger when he starts getting our son involved... . I stayed calm though and told my son daddy is just in a bad mood.  My son cried that he didn't want his dad to leave and I told him that if that's what Daddy wants to do and is happy there's nothing we can do about it.  I also told him that when he grows up I hope he remembers this and doesn't do this to his family.  My husband flipped out and started yelling telling our son "well remember, you can't turn a h*e into a housewife" and told him that I just want a new boyfriend and that's why all this is happening.

I cried myself to sleep and called out of work today, I just couldn't handle it.

This morning my husband terrorized me some more.  He will walk around the house talking to himself mumbling things about me and calling me awful names.  I tried to ask him to please just stop, I understand he's found someone else and that's fine but I'm under enough stress trying to figure out how I'm going to get out and raise 2 kids on my own (I'm 11 weeks pregnant).  He just said he didn't give a F*** and started screaming again.  I went on the front porch to sit until he left for work.  He came out there with a notebook I had written down numbers to shelters and therapist last night so I could get the ball rolling.  He wrote some really mean things on it and yelled out to the entire neighborhood how I'm just a h*e.  I went to take a drive just to get away before he left and he starts blowing my phone up.  He left our sons medication (he works at his school) at home on purpose so I'd have to go back to his school and drop it off.  I left to go bring it (school is about 20 mins away).  Luckily I saw one of his co workers when I walked in so I gave it to her to give to him so I didn't have to see him.

How do I deal with this behavior?  He's just going to keep it up until he "comes down"... . eventually he'll come to me saying he's sorry and can't live without me but I can't forgive him this time for what he's doing.

How do I stop him from involving my son and telling him lies about me?  Even if I leave he'll still see our son at school everyday so there's really not stopping him from seeing him.

[maxsterling]

Wow, that's pretty intense.  I am sorry you are having to deal with this.  Remember first and foremost you and your son's safety.  And this includes emotional safety.  It sounds to me that right now your husband's behavior is completely out of control.  Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to soothe him, talk him down, or show him how he has hurt you.  All you can do is stay out of his way until he calms on his own. 

Is there any possible way you and your son can stay with a friend or relative until then?  It will allow you to settle and look at things objectively.  That's about all I can suggest for now, try and find space and take care of you, and deal with him after the dust settles a bit.