Projection?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Long story short split black replaced back together (idiot) Yada Yada Yada. My question is this. While arguing with diagnosed ex and current but soon to be ex and future gf she says a lot of things that strike me in a strange way. She basically says exactly what she is but turns it around on me. For instance I have a huge trust issue clearly and I asked her why she wasn't answering my calls or texts. All of a sudden boom! I'm upsetting her and I'm a psycho and I'm a liar and everything else. I know that they turn everything around on you but for her to actually say that I turn everything around and I'm cheating and I'm the one with mental issues is pretty absurd to me.

I can write a novel on my relationship as can many or you but my main concern is that during my split black period was when I discovered the capabilities of her lies. She only admitted to one lie which is the one I had solid proof. Now every time I bring something up and she flips out and says ill never believe her and its my fault. She knows I know a ton about BPD and we even had conversations on different things she does and she seems genuine. The lying part she does not admit at all.

I've read several things saying even faced with facts that most don't admit. I'm rambling at this point but has anyone experienced an argument where their so has basically just said everything that they do but turned it around on you?

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Long story short split black replaced back together (idiot) Yada Yada Yada. My question is this. While arguing with diagnosed ex and current but soon to be ex and future gf she says a lot of things that strike me in a strange way. She basically says exactly what she is but turns it around on me. For instance I have a huge trust issue clearly and I asked her why she wasn't answering my calls or texts. All of a sudden boom! I'm upsetting her and I'm a psycho and I'm a liar and everything else. I know that they turn everything around on you but for her to actually say that I turn everything around and I'm cheating and I'm the one with mental issues is pretty absurd to me.

I can write a novel on my relationship as can many or you but my main concern is that during my split black period was when I discovered the capabilities of her lies. She only admitted to one lie which is the one I had solid proof. Now every time I bring something up and she flips out and says ill never believe her and its my fault. She knows I know a ton about BPD and we even had conversations on different things she does and she seems genuine. The lying part she does not admit at all.

I've read several things saying even faced with facts that most don't admit. I'm rambling at this point but has anyone experienced an argument where their so has basically just said everything that they do but turned it around on you?