What happens after you 'abandon' them?

[nyfit1]

Do u think they feel relieved that their fears were realized? Almost confirming to themselves that they were right all along and not having crazy thoughts? What makes them come back to u? Mine has several times.

[freedom33]

This is the fourth time I have broken up with her. She always comes back after a few weeks. She actually just texted me a couple of days ago and send me an email yesterday. I feel bad that I 'abandoned' her especially as I have promised her that I wouldn't but I feel there's a point that I need to take care of myself too. It's ok to live your life with principles but not when they work against you - I am drained and exhausted after being with her for 2-3 months. That's how much I can take - then we break up.

I seriously don't know what might be going on in her head. In the first two breaks after one of our breaks we were still friends in fb and instagram and she seemed fine to be honest. With her friends and family, posting pictures doing things. In one of the breaks she came back once she saw me in a picture with a couple of other women in a bar. She got really jealous probably thought she was going to lose me and came back on her best behaviour (for a month). Another time after a month of no contact ashe called me and wanted to see me. I picked up foolishly. But in all the breaks I was the one depressed at home and not having the will to live - she seemed fine until something triggered her I suppose. This time things are a bit better. No contact for 2 weeks and things are feeling better than ever before.