HI - I finally figured out how to post here... .
Anyway - parent of 14y/o BPD DD, currently in hospital after 5th suicide attempt, 4 of which have been in the last 3/4 weeks. All because of "abandonement" issues. First one was a bust up with a friend, made worse because she also has social anxiety and has few friends. 3 came together because of not being able to see a BF. Last one was because he dumped her. Second time in hospital within a month.
I have noticed depression and moods creep up on us, getting worse, since about 12 y/o. I put it down to teenage stuff at the start, but it got worse and worse, and we eventually sought help (T and Pysch/meds)... .not much changed, in fact it got worse, especially since involved with this guy.
Trying to describe daily life with a BPD teen is almost impossible... .like trying to capture feathers in a windstorm. Every time we blinked something was happening. It is exhusting. Lying, stealing, impulsive and risk takling behavior, lack of insight, lack of desire to help herself, dissociation, rapid mood changes, frantic reaction to abandonment by guys (although she doesnt seem to care about abandoning us as her parents/home). The vicious words are beyond belief sometimes. She told me she doesn't love me and never has she has "just been pretending my whole life so you'll give me things"... .as a ratrional adult I can shrug this off, of course, but day in, day out, it can become very hurtful.