What is it they possess our BPD gf have to keep us drawn to them

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I have notice throughout my reading other posts that our beloved BPD gifs possess to kept us drawn to them ,

Uniqueness, sexuality, desire ,always badly entertained

what else ?

Why we know it's a bad situation and we still want to be with them. 

she broke it off 3months ago cause I couldn't 

I am over a lot of the pain feeling more in control of the situation ,been in contact with her more than after the brake up ,sometimes I feel she wants to recycle but I get a few emails that I can sense she still not ready or won't be for a while , am just hoping she will be back ... .but this time I have a  feeling that I can do some very big changes including counseling and yet I am more informed about the illness now more than ever 

thanks  to this board I am feeling  WHOLE LOT BETTER THAN I DID BEFORE I JOINED IT'S REALLY A GOOD SUPPORT GROUP KNOWING THAT AM NOT ALONE IN THIS UNBELIEVABLE UNHEALTHY RELASHIONSHIP.

help out please

[guy4caligirl]

I have notice throughout my reading other posts that our beloved BPD gifs possess to kept us drawn to them ,

Uniqueness, sexuality, desire ,always badly entertained

what else ?

Why we know it's a bad situation and we still want to be with them. 

she broke it off 3months ago cause I couldn't 

I am over a lot of the pain feeling more in control of the situation ,been in contact with her more than after the brake up ,sometimes I feel she wants to recycle but I get a few emails that I can sense she still not ready or won't be for a while , am just hoping she will be back ... .but this time I have a  feeling that I can do some very big changes including counseling and yet I am more informed about the illness now more than ever 

thanks  to this board I am feeling  WHOLE LOT BETTER THAN I DID BEFORE I JOINED IT'S REALLY A GOOD SUPPORT GROUP KNOWING THAT AM NOT ALONE IN THIS UNBELIEVABLE UNHEALTHY RELASHIONSHIP.

help out please

[Irish rebel]

Hey

Could echo so much of what you just wrote... .!

There is this draw back that can't really be explained... .and certainly there are emotional and sexual aspects to it... .it's like they know what buttons to push... .

And when needed, they push them... .! Agree with you completely, it's great to find this resource and be able to both give and receive some support

I'm in counseling myself the last 6 months, and recommend it wholeheartedly. The minimum we have to do is work on ourselves Get stronger, make better decisions. And run after them less easily... .!