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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« Reply #30 on: April 17, 2015, 04:52:57 PM »

What model of Mustang?

It was an '86 with T-top.  5.0 with modifications.  Bought it that way, wish I still had it!

Nice! I have an 08 GT. It is currently broken, because I had too much fun with it, but I am moving it up the priority list to get it back on the road.   I have also been looking into buying an SN95 or Fox, maybe a convertible to cruise around in, at least until I get the 08 back up.

What do you think of the 2015s?

Haven't really followed vehicles lately, but I love mustangs.  Shelbys in particular.  Right now I have NOTHING.  The BPD ex made sure of that.  My brother had a '69 Shelby GT-500.  I was about 14 back then but I used to take it out when he went to work.  Was cammed blueprinted etx. Was a beast.  Now I am happy getting out of bed in the morning. Weird trade-off right?

Mine has been sitting broken since before my divorce and then through the relationship with the udxGF. I had hoped that the GF and I would work on it, but there was so "much" with the relationship that I never had the time to really work on it. I thought that it would be fun to get greasy together.
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« Reply #31 on: April 17, 2015, 05:41:28 PM »

but I'm still scotch taped to her... . or rather... . scotch taped to what I envision we had

I am already, in my own opinion, treading where I should not go.

Throw me a line, I'm drowning again!

OK, let's run with the metaphors: what if you traded in the Scotch tape for Velcro, as you tread water, her attached to your ankle, pulling you down.  This is a sink or swim situation and you don't need a line; you can rip that Velcro strap off and swim for shore, although we're in a boat to make sure you make it.  Swim hard dude, let's see you show yourself how strong we all know you are.  Words be powerful... .
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« Reply #32 on: April 17, 2015, 06:00:08 PM »

but I'm still scotch taped to her... . or rather... . scotch taped to what I envision we had

I am already, in my own opinion, treading where I should not go.

Throw me a line, I'm drowning again!

OK, let's run with the metaphors: what if you traded in the Scotch tape for Velcro, as you tread water, her attached to your ankle, pulling you down.  This is a sink or swim situation and you don't need a line; you can rip that Velcro strap off and swim for shore, although we're in a boat to make sure you make it.  Swim hard dude, let's see you show yourself how strong we all know you are.  Words be powerful... .

Nicely worded fromheeltoheal.  Right to tears... .I guess I'm not that strong yet... .but I'm certainly NOT going to go down with the "anchor".  This is how I worded it to a friend this morning... .

I can still see the good and bad of the r/s in my mind. I am kinda working on autopilot, because I fight my urges by following my mental itinerary. My mental itinerary is the knowledge that I should be moving forward not dwelling on what I cannot control nor can anything be fixed except for me.

I want to be back in her arms. But that would never work, It's like walking right back into what I left, and I would be devastated. Double edged sword.  And her birthday is tomorrow... .I thought it was Sunday but I was wrong. (who cares right?)
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« Reply #33 on: April 18, 2015, 07:37:33 AM »

Well it's here!  It's her birthday.  I'm still alive!

On a serious note, I didn't know whether or not to "recognize" the birthday in my mind, but how could I not?  I prayed to God for her last night around midnight and left it in his hands. He knows how I feel and why I do what I do... . I fugured I couldn't get any better than that.  I did have wicked dreams of her last night... .I was chasing her down, couldn't get to her quick enuff to tell her that I loved her... .etc.  It was a different setting and even though it was her, it was someone else.  I remember feeling so broke up in my dream and maybe crying in there too.  In fact my eyes really hurt this morning as does everything else.  I am just going to MAKE IT THRU TODAY!  It's 8:30, and I'm headed to be with my son for at least the morning.  I'll keep busy and I'll TRY not to look anywhere that I might see something that might trigger me (FB).  Damn... .someone else said it too, I'm really starting to hate FB.  I wish all my friends here a peaceful day and nice weather and I'll get on here later and check in.  Keep your fingers crossed for me and I'll be praying for you all also. 
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« Reply #34 on: April 18, 2015, 08:52:57 AM »

Enjoy the time with your son!
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« Reply #35 on: April 18, 2015, 11:37:18 AM »

Enjoy the time with your son!

Sitting and waiting with him to get a tattoo. I'm kinda like a patient pet, you can bring me just about any where and as long as I have a seat and phone to keep me occupied I'm good.
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« Reply #36 on: April 18, 2015, 02:19:18 PM »

Enjoy the time with your son!

Sitting and waiting with him to get a tattoo. I'm kinda like a patient pet, you can bring me just about any where and as long as I have a seat and phone to keep me occupied I'm good.

Lol. Gotta love smart phones.
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« Reply #37 on: April 18, 2015, 04:03:57 PM »

Enjoy the time with your son!

Sitting and waiting with him to get a tattoo. I'm kinda like a patient pet, you can bring me just about any where and as long as I have a seat and phone to keep me occupied I'm good.

Lol. Gotta love smart phones.

Yes, every one just whips out their phones!
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