Thanks Mike... .I guess what I meant by nothing to lose was that I had seen her new guy in the car so by unblocking her on Facebook and looking at her profile nothing else was really going to hurt. I blocked her originally back in ,November as I did it for me as I wanted to protect myself. I have "rejected" her twice - once in December when she saw me in my car and texted me an insane comment and once in mid February when she made indirect contact with a friends girlfriend as i had started seeing someone just on a friendship basis. I just don't understand the quick block him and then a day later unblock me. She's clearly idealising her new man - is she becoming indifferent? Is it to make me jealous? Is it to show I'm a future option? It's just made me think that's all.
I see. Thanks for the reply. I understand the use of NC to protect oneself while sorting through the FOG and all of the other chaotic emotions during the separation/breakup and working to detach. Are you still feeling attached?
It is very difficult to say why she might have done these things because people living with BPD tend to be impulsive and depending on the severity, mental state at the time, defense mechanisms at play, etc. they could have rational or irrational reasons for doing things.
What if she did it to... .show that she is becoming indifferent... .to make you jealous... .to show that you are a future option? Are you wrestling with how you can be indifferent to all of this, that is, seeing the guy driving her car, her behavior on facebook, etc.?
