Thank you - yes it is the obvious - He gets very irate if i mention blocking him. I have tried to reason with him that we need a 30 day break with no calls. He has threatened to come to my house or work if I block him.
Ultimately I know it is the right thing to do. My therapist has suggested it as well. I have babied him for so long and he really knows how to pull my heart strings. I guess I keep hoping that ultimately he will shift his infatuation for me to something or someone else.
Thank you for the feed back.
That's a difficult situation to be in freedom60 - I'm sorry that he's making it so difficult to stick to your decision.
His "becoming irate" and his threats to come to your home or workplace are attempts to control you. Have you discussed with your therapist how you will respond if you block him and he shows up to your home or work?
My ex was a "waif" borderline - often very child-like and knew how to pull my heartstrings as well. One of the realizations that has really helped with my healing is the understanding that 1. She is
not a child no matter how "wounded" she appears, and 2. Her instincts for survival are very good; she survived before me and will survive well after our breakup.
Can I ask why you've decided to end the relationship?
