Frustrated

[candamie]

I am so frustrated.  there is always trauma and game playing that I know but yet it hurts.  She will say or do anything in jealous outrage yet is the one that taunts, flirts and teases.  There is no sincere talk just talk around and emphasis on her greatness and need to succeed without any real experience in what she is doing.  She can learn by "reading" to accomplish anything beyond the rest of the world's morons.   I love her but can't get her to be her.  Sounds crazy but its real.

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[EaglesJuju]

Hi candamie, 

Welcome aboard.

I am sorry that you are going through this.  It is really tough to cope with jealousy and grandiose behaviors. 

Many times people who behave with a sense of entitlement or inflated sense of importance are exhibiting a "false-self." It is like a façade or mask that is being worn to protect the hidden real self. People who hide their real selves typically struggle with self-loathing, poor self-esteem, worthlessness, anger, fear, and anxiety.

What is she like when she is not presenting this false self?