Feeling replaced but not by a person

[Depression = 72% of members]

Has anyone ever felt like they were replaced by not by an individual? I feel my ex put more and more of her time into online communities and a MMORPG before the split and from what I've seen that's all she ever talks about on social media. So I don't think she's in a relationship but there could be some emotional support there and relationships that can almost be turned on and off at will which might suit her BPD?

[Corgicuddler95]

Has anyone ever felt like they were replaced by not by an individual? I feel my ex put more and more of her time into online communities and a MMORPG before the split and from what I've seen that's all she ever talks about on social media. So I don't think she's in a relationship but there could be some emotional support there and relationships that can almost be turned on and off at will which might suit her BPD?

[gameover]

I read one account on some forum by a pwBPD who managed to stay faithful to her primary relationship by having imaginary virtual affairs in Second Life.  Supply can come in a lot of different forms--jobs, friendships, etc.  Doesn't have to be a romantic attachment.

[Beach_Babe]

I was replaced in anticipation of a new job. Also a ham sandwich, but thats beside the point.

[SGraham]

I was replaced by tumblr... .And Dean Winchester from supernatural.

[Beach_Babe]

I was replaced by tumblr... .And Dean Winchester from supernatural.

Holy crap, really?  wow

[disorderedsociety]

I was replaced by tumblr... .And Dean Winchester from supernatural.

I have such disdain for tumblr because of my ex.

Thinking back, she gave the laptop more loving attention than me. I just sat there playing computer games because I'd given up long before.

Needless to say with the nightly runs to feed her alcohol addiction, sitting around with her, I gained 40 pounds during that time. My ID photos look totally different then vs now.

6' 0" and 175 lbs, vs 5' 11.5" and 220. Spine curvature had gotten thrown off too. 6 months of chiropractic care straightened that out quite literally.

[SGraham]

I was replaced by tumblr... .And Dean Winchester from supernatural.

Holy crap, really?  wow

Haha yeah, even when we were together she'd always talk about Dean Winchester and i kinda thought, "ok bit of a fan girl i can deal with that". In all seriousness though, im sure her obsessions with things like supernatural is a form of escapism. Haha i wonder when dean will get painted black? Is that when she moves on to sam? 

[SGraham]

I have such disdain for tumblr because of my ex.

Haha yeah me too.

[FannyB]

I was replaced by tumblr... .And Dean Winchester from supernatural.

That's kind of ironic because Jensen Ackles' image is actually used on this very site to portray someone in emotional turmoil! 

https://bpdfamily.com/content/surviving-break-when-your-partner-has-borderline-personality

Even more ironic, as his pained expression on Supernatural is normally due to the machinations of some demon or other! 


Fanny

[SGraham]

I was replaced by tumblr... .And Dean Winchester from supernatural.

That's kind of ironic because Jensen Ackles' image is actually used on this very site to portray someone in emotional turmoil! 

https://bpdfamily.com/content/surviving-break-when-your-partner-has-borderline-personality

Even more ironic, as his pained expression on Supernatural is normally due to the machinations of some demon or other! 


Fanny

My god, i thought he seemed familiar. I don't really watch supernatural but my family does. at this point i cant even be in the same room when its on. Reminds me to much of my ex.

[Beach_Babe]

I wish all the McDonalds and ham factories of the world would shut down because of my ex. There was Kentucky Fried Chicken but they suck, and are now black. I wish I was a pizza, maybe i'd be important.

[Corgicuddler95]

Thanks for the replies. I relate to people saying tumblr though because my ex used it a lot before we started going out then stopped it but started posting a lot more before the breakup and since.

[poedameron]

My exBPDgf was in love with Scandal on TV... .she cried when someone died on some other show for weeks like it was a real person.  When I poked fun at that she went ballistic.  She used to call me Fitz from scandal... .but then she split Fitz black and then loved Jake... .it was so weird.  I love Star Wars, but not like that.

When I went no contact, she went crazy on pinterest and into her shows, etc.  She also gradually used new friends to replace me... .thought I didn't see it at the time... .she began to dump all of our relationship issues on them... .relying on them to tell her what to do.  Calling them when we would fight to come pick her up, etc... .it was ridiculous.  She even once said don't ever compare yourself to my friends, they don't beat me down like you do.  And these are people she had known for a couple months... .we had been living together for 2 years. That concept didn't even register.  To her, they were more important than me... .it was unreal.

Then she began to befriend lots of males... .I realized her best relationships are superfluous ones.  Anyone who was ever truly close to her was at some point split black and pushed away.  And the cycle began again.

She moved here from las vegas and I found she was lying to her vegas friends and family about all sorts of other things... .lying to her dad and brother about where she was... .I think in the end she's BPD and a sociopath... .maybe even histrionic... .christ, she's a mess... .and I loved her more than anyone I ever have.  What a waste.

But she did this with her ex husband too, using me for that... .and I never saw it of course until I became her ex husband.  And who's next?  Whoever falls for her scam... .her fake love... .man it's so terrible.  

She is truly like those mermaids in the Illiad and the Odyssey... .the sailors are drawn in... .and they mermaids turn them into pigs... .the thing is so many people told me to run from this relationship and I just couldn't do it, until it was too late and now I'm in horrible pain.