I never shed a tear for this relationship...

[seang]

Thats strange.

I mean it hurt, was spiteful, lack of emotion and abrupt.  But Ive never once sat and cried.

?

[cloudten]

It took me a long time to cry about the relationship, honestly. It took me going thru actual physical assault for me to be emotional enough to cry. I think I shut down emotionally. But as I grew stronger after one of our breakups, I started to have feelings again.

Don't be surprised if you never cry. Also don't be surprised if you all of a sudden burst out in tears. Just about anything can happen as we are recovering.

Are you in counseling or anything? Are you in NC?

[seang]

16 mth r/s, 4 months out, 1 month NC.  No counselling, just getting by... .

[MakingMyWay]

I cried from the shock of it, but emotionally I felt no different from when I was in the relationship. I was already so emotionally drained from the relationship and all of its ups and down. A lot of the crying came when I started to regain my emotions and really take in what had happened and it was often out of nowhere. I'd be sitting in bed and suddenly I'd be overcome and burst into tears.

[greenmonkey]

I cried from the shock of it, but emotionally I felt no different from when I was in the relationship. I was already so emotionally drained from the relationship and all of its ups and down. A lot of the crying came when I started to regain my emotions and really take in what had happened and it was often out of nowhere. I'd be sitting in bed and suddenly I'd be overcome and burst into tears.

I was only thinking this the other week.

I am one year out now, and nearly one year no contact, and I have never shed a tear in all this time. I have always put it down to the relief of removing her from my life, being free from the chaos, lies, cheating, deception.

I would like to think that I will regain my emotions and feelings, maybe I have been numb from the whole experience, I have been close to tears for no explicable reason in the last few weeks, and this is a part of the healing process.