Exhausted

[WannaBeHappy]

I am feeling so exhausted... .and angry... .and overwhelmed.

My 16 year old daughter with BPD is sucking all the energy out of me.

I want her to be well for her.  But i also want her to be well so that she can get out of my house!  I told my husband that if she doesn't go away to college, once she turns 18, either she has to go, or I will.

I know that sounds horrible, but the is exactly how I feel!

My husband is so disengaged and disconnected.  We are perceived as a "power couple" and he likes that.  He operates in denial that anything is wrong with our daughter, so all her care is left up to me.

I just want to... .

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[busybee1116]

So how do you get support, fill your well? Totally normal to be frustrated and vent. I have had many a pity party. But time with my friends, a massage, meditation, a hot bath, good therapy session, exercising, more sleep etc always seem to be a better choice in the long run than numbing out in front of my tv with a bowl of ice cream and ruminating/venting (my previous solutions). I want you to be happy too, wannbehappy! What kind of self care can you engage in now that will help you get through this time?

[Hopeful_Mom]

My 16 year old daughter is causing the same type of chaos. Looking forward to college too! Take care.

[busyscmom]

I certainly understand how you're feeling! My BPD daughter is turning 23 in a few weeks and I am utterly exhausted! And sad. And frustrated. And hurt. And guilty.

You're not alone. Looks like a lot of us on this board are feeling the same way.

Feel free to private message me if you need somebody to talk to.

[BB_YogaGirl]

I feel the energy being sucked out of me in different bouts, depending on her mood. I am always walking on eggshells and it feels good to be in good company with you all. Being alone... .even surrounded by people... .is the hardest part.

[MumofReh]

That is exactly what is going on in my relationship.  He is clueless.  Has always been.  She is 13 and has pitted us against each other since she was little.  My other two children feel that she is 75% the reason we are breaking up.  Because of her, he accused me of torturing the children.  He would come home from work and listen to her lies.  Even the two other children told him over and over what she is doing.  We had a massive fight in July and I finally shut him out, realizing that it will never change.  I literally grieved our marriage m and have been trying to be friends.  But it still makes me so angry how protective he is over her... .I mean, I want to protect her, but I assume everything is a lie.  The police knocked on our door last night because her friends were worried she was going to commit suicide.  He stood there all protective and patronizing and it made me ill to my stomach.  All I could do is sit there and think how badly I wanted out of this.  But I have two other children who NEED me.  Feeling like I am being emotionally held hostage here.  He threatened to commit suicide twice in the past six months if I leave.  No hope.