My lying, cheating, child-neglecting Ex said, "a woman of character deserves a man of character. In this, you failed." Only after she left did she paint me white. Very confusing. Even if you have a strong sense of self, it's confusing. Have you seen this?
BPD BEHAVIORS: SplittingWOW, those are some harsh words. My ex has said some things of similar intensity.
As a non, I felt like I had an innate sense that told me - she never really meant to be that harsh and so somehow that made it all "understandable". Not sure where I got that from but I know that I let her off the hook countless times for saying and doing the meanest things to me because she did not really mean it. Have you felt the same?
BTW, that link on splitting is really really good. I am scheduled to finalize divorce next week and fantasizing I will show my wife this post with the hope that maybe she will split back after reading it... . Strange, so much of what the splitting article discusses encompass arguments my wife and I had - I really do want to show her article as she will recognize the words from this as my words to her for 10 years.
