Hi RedPixie,
You might want to take a look at this link. It's pretty helpful.
Getting a "Borderline" into TherapyWhat the experts tell us is the best thing to do is to build trust. By listening carefully to our loved one's fears.
No one wants to admit to needing help. I wouldn't. Trying to convince someone by explaining or motivating them is usually not very successful. That's why it is suggested the effort begins with the more mentally healthy stable partner. The results come quicker and are easier to sustain. Does that make sense? That is why all the Lessons here are targeted for us.
It's a difficult thing, you can create a boundary that says, seek help or I will X, but the risk there is that any help will be handicapped by being 'forced' into it.
take a look at the link and let us know what you think okay?
'ducks