She finally came clean and admitted she had been having an emotional relationship with a high school classmate from another state in the Fall by email, phone, text, skype
apparently while I was taking care of the kid over the thanksgiving holiday at the inlaws she was communicating with this guy 24/7.
she told me she wanted a divorce right after we got back from the holiday. and though she had threatened divorce hundreds of times, i knew this time was different
apparently when he got wind of the divorce he disappeared
he made her feel things, it was so exciting, he was such a gentleman, he took control, he built her up, he made her feel good about herself... .
ugh
Yeah man, we can almost always observe the same pattern when women with BPD find a replacement: they oftentimes perceive to "fall in" love very quickly - even within a few hours, they will think the replacement will be the perfect "knight in shining armor", the man of their life, etc. etc. Welcome to the "idealization" phase!
Nothing new, sadly. I'm sure it happened to you as well, when your relationship started, as it happened to me and to hundreds of users of this forum.
It's a cyclic pattern, don't take it personally: BPD is an attachment disorder, among other things.
Take care of your daughter and write here as much as you want! We're here to support you buddy!