Is she waif borderline?

[Botonok]

Hi, I just want to ask one thing. Because I am starting to be unsure if my ex is waif borderline.

My story is here - https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=289438.0

I am starting to doubt it because of few things, although she has trace to childhood when she was left by her father who dissapered to foreign country and they havent met for few years. He was also depressive, sometimes abusive and out of reality. Sometimes.

My ex takes some pills for depression and she is visiting terapeut due to her suicide attemp (more like attention attempt) T wanted to make her stronger and more confident etc.

Its almost month after overdosing and visiting T and taking medication. She started to work, she is also looking for other work because of money problems, she is back laughing and doing her usual public stuff. I dont know how is she behind door, but I doubt she could improve so quickly even with proper treatment.

So my question is:

is she waif borderline,

just childish attention seeking girl,

other PD,

or just manipulative mean woman.

[Rmbrworst]

Overall, it doesn't matter what someone's diagnosis is.  Whether it's BPD, narcissism, co dependency, etc

What matters is how you're being treated and if the other person is hurting you on a repeated basis. My exBPD is not diagnosed, but he exhibits enough of the traits and he acts in the same push/pull discard manner, so that's what I'm coining him as.

Otherwise I would have to settle for just calling him a jerk.  However, that's what he's been.  A jerk.  He's been rotten to me.  The rest doesn't matter.  I don't care what is causing it or what it's called.

I know we try to figure this stuff out in our head round and round and over and over, but keeping it simple works too