need help

[blondeone]

I have been with my bf for 5yr everythin was fine at first i wasd actually the idiot. But he wass perfect then i had a baby and things changed i started to feel like he controled me he coukd do anything he wanted witout even consider me i had to jusy take it, he declares his love for me one minuye then shouts abuse the next threats physical behaviour then some times acts out on and hits me but thinks its gine because its nothing compared to what he wantys to do to me. He goes away for a half hour and comes back explains its my fault and to forget it. Then i haveto be normal and happy againm. But i cant, i have become really misrable because of all this (been going on for nearly 4yr) so its quit hard to feel happyaround this. He has not been diagnoside but i think he has all the right trairts i try to explain he needs help but he said i am stupid and he dosnt there isnt anything rong with him because this onlky happens and he only feels like this with me because i push his buttons what can i do to make him see sence and make him see something is rong. I cant walk away because i love him even though he has told me he hates me and wanjts me out of his life

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