Verbally assaulted by ex today. Very vicious.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Today s9's mother came aboard me in a most verbally anusive way. S9 has been with me since Wednesday, he will be with me until Monday morning. S9's mother text me to say s9 was home from day camp. I text back saying I should of been called to pick him up, it's my access time. She shot back insulting texts, said he didn't want me to pick him up. I went to her place to get him and she came to my car and started into a narcisstic rage. I thanked her and asked her to get s9. The more mean and nasty she got the calmer I was and I kept taking it back to topic, please go in and get s9. She was challenging me to get out of my car, I didn't just fall off the turnip wagon, I knew she was looking to start trouble. Her BF was right in the mix, gave me the finger, was shaking his fist at me. I politely reminded her I'm here to pick up s9. She has been on her hurting text kick latley bc I backed out of the settlement confrience review, requested a trial and got it. She is trying to mentally break me but I'm not the old bus boy, I have boundaries. She is telling me s9 doesn't want to be with me. I asked s9 why he didn't want me to pick him up at summer camp when his mother told him to call me and he said very confused, mom never told me to call you, she just picked me up. She is scrambling Bc she also used someone else as the alternative contact in case of emergency. Family court worker said the judge is going to frown on that. Ex is trying to tear me down. I did not let her words hurt me. I have changed, she can't manipulate me any more. Her words don't stick anymore.

[bus boy]

Today s9's mother came aboard me in a most verbally anusive way. S9 has been with me since Wednesday, he will be with me until Monday morning. S9's mother text me to say s9 was home from day camp. I text back saying I should of been called to pick him up, it's my access time. She shot back insulting texts, said he didn't want me to pick him up. I went to her place to get him and she came to my car and started into a narcisstic rage. I thanked her and asked her to get s9. The more mean and nasty she got the calmer I was and I kept taking it back to topic, please go in and get s9. She was challenging me to get out of my car, I didn't just fall off the turnip wagon, I knew she was looking to start trouble. Her BF was right in the mix, gave me the finger, was shaking his fist at me. I politely reminded her I'm here to pick up s9. She has been on her hurting text kick latley bc I backed out of the settlement confrience review, requested a trial and got it. She is trying to mentally break me but I'm not the old bus boy, I have boundaries. She is telling me s9 doesn't want to be with me. I asked s9 why he didn't want me to pick him up at summer camp when his mother told him to call me and he said very confused, mom never told me to call you, she just picked me up. She is scrambling Bc she also used someone else as the alternative contact in case of emergency. Family court worker said the judge is going to frown on that. Ex is trying to tear me down. I did not let her words hurt me. I have changed, she can't manipulate me any more. Her words don't stick anymore.

[JerryRG]

Hey bus boy

Last week I was the scum of the earth and hated by my exgf, saying she didn't love me, I'm a horrible father,  shes never been happier. Today she messages a nice couple emails that ended with "God bless YOU Jerry and (son)"

Maybe the weather, or the Olympics, or the presidential race or the wind, clouds, sun or moon?  I have no explanation why my exgf does or says these things. I have been told to give up trying, spent so much energy and time trying too understand.

At the park with our son this afternoon and watched her drive by, kept watching her out of the corner of my eye, she stopped and watched our son and me for a while, when I looked again she was gone.

Stalking us again or just enjoying watching our son play?

[bus boy]

HI JRG. I don't even go there anymore, trying to figure her out. Takes to much of my positive energy. I have my son and that's all that matters.

My ex gave s9 an iPhone so she can stock us by phone. S9 is on his mothers data package so she can track us and she has. Today I'm going to turn off those options on his phone. I guess, JRG, it doesn't matter what they do or say, we have our children and are good parents to them.

[Tobiasfunke]

Great job not inciting any extra drama or getting sucked into legal issues by engaging with your ex. Is there anyway you can change to drop off site to the local police station? I have seen that mentioned on the parenting board. Try to remember we are real with very ill individuals. Stay calm a land cool. I've read many of your post you are good man and father. A lesser person would have left at day one. keep up the good work

[bus boy]

Thank you very much for your kind words.