Her stuff is still here

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Her mom has threatened me weeks ago not for any of it to be moved but I am tired of it being here. I have tried to tell her friends that I love my separated wife but they read the messages and don't reply or block me. Her mom refuses to intervene.

Why is here stuff still here if she left almost a month ago? I cannot reach her on anything as my wife has blocked me from all forms of communication.  Suggestions?

[rosesarered777]

Her mom has threatened me weeks ago not for any of it to be moved but I am tired of it being here. I have tried to tell her friends that I love my separated wife but they read the messages and don't reply or block me. Her mom refuses to intervene.

Why is here stuff still here if she left almost a month ago? I cannot reach her on anything as my wife has blocked me from all forms of communication.  Suggestions?

[schwing]

How much "stuff" is involved?

Can you ask one of her friends to store it for her?

Would you consider sending her mother a bill for "storage costs."?

How about you move it to one of the storage services and send her mother the information and bill?

[rosesarered777]

A few shelves worth, console, two monitors and dozens of clothes. I told her weeks ago when she asked that it's her stuff and she can take it. Do you think she has doubts about leaving?

[Mutt]

Do you think she has doubts about leaving?

It gives her a reason to get in touch with you.

[rosesarered777]

Cops called and gave me a warning for no reason not to contact her and vice versa. Said they will come by with her to pick up her stuff.

[Ahoy]

Yep mine left all her stuff at my house. When we split I think she told her friends and family I got mad and threw it out as part of a smear campaign!

So I boxed up all the clothes, small stuff into 6 boxes and left it at her parents 'stores' collection warehouse for when they both next collect their stores.

I like to think she had to backpedal on that particular lie but who really knows

[uniquename]

My uBPDh and I are 2+ months separated. I asked about this at first, got advice from T, lawyer, and my sister. H said he left a trophy he'd won I thought might make him happy to have because he thought it made it less permanent for me. At the hearing 5 days ago to extend my protective order, he asked for a continuance, got it extended 3 weeks (thanks!) and then his lawyer made a point of saying he needed stuff from the house (clothes, etc) and how would he get that without a key to the house or the alarm code... .Of course I have a good lawyer and it was a good judge so they just said, lawyers will arrange when law enforcement can accompany you and access will be provided somehow to LEO by me.

So he has all the clothes he needs (he's asked for them and I've provided - safely, publicly) but there's still reminders of him all over the house. And him coming to get the stuff? Haven't heard anything in the 5 days since.

I'm tempted too to box it up and put it somewhere. (To be honest, I'm tempted to go full "How Stella Got Her Groove Back" and throw it out the window, set it on fire... .a girl can dream.) Lawyer advised to leave it and let him pack up. But I may move that trophy... .