What would you reply?

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Not all doctors believe BPDxw and her "stories". My SS's paediatrician just reached out to DH that BPDxw approached him to write a letter stating that the children are not allowed to travel without a parent present.

Since we moved overseas BPDxw is trying her luck again. The same paediatrician was tricked by her this summer. After my husband had a lengthy conversation with him and showed him the facts the paediatrician retracted the letter he had previously written. And obviously he has understood he cannot believe everything that BPDxw is saying otherwise he would not be reaching out to my husband right now.

So what would you respond to the pediatrician?

I personally would like for the pediatrician to simply not write anything. If he writes that the children need to be accompanied by a parent then BPDxw will (and has in the past) insisted that she is the only capable one flying with the children and will demand that my husband pays for her ticket (there is something in our court order that addresses that, but of course BPDxw does not care about the court order).
Should we just respond back thanking him for reaching out and conferring with DH and that the boys are and will be in therapy currently and he would prefer if a mental health professional would make such recommendations?
Then of course we have to go and explain about the T from hell that my husband just sent a letter to stop treating the children and that we are currently in negotiations with lawyers to set up new therapy for the children.

[soundofmusicgirl]

Not all doctors believe BPDxw and her "stories". My SS's paediatrician just reached out to DH that BPDxw approached him to write a letter stating that the children are not allowed to travel without a parent present.

Since we moved overseas BPDxw is trying her luck again. The same paediatrician was tricked by her this summer. After my husband had a lengthy conversation with him and showed him the facts the paediatrician retracted the letter he had previously written. And obviously he has understood he cannot believe everything that BPDxw is saying otherwise he would not be reaching out to my husband right now.

So what would you respond to the pediatrician?

I personally would like for the pediatrician to simply not write anything. If he writes that the children need to be accompanied by a parent then BPDxw will (and has in the past) insisted that she is the only capable one flying with the children and will demand that my husband pays for her ticket (there is something in our court order that addresses that, but of course BPDxw does not care about the court order).
Should we just respond back thanking him for reaching out and conferring with DH and that the boys are and will be in therapy currently and he would prefer if a mental health professional would make such recommendations?
Then of course we have to go and explain about the T from hell that my husband just sent a letter to stop treating the children and that we are currently in negotiations with lawyers to set up new therapy for the children.

[DreamGirl]

How does the pediatrician feel about the children flying without supervision?

[Panda39]

I would not throw out there that the therapist will decide especially since the kids "Therapist" (I use the term loosely  ) has shown animosity towards your husband and is buying what the BPDxw is selling (that's why the ex likes the therapist  )

The ex is using the doctor to triangulate... .be the rescuer, because she's the victim (portraying the kids as victims) and your husband is the persecutor.

If the court order covers travel perhaps your husband could just let the doctor know that the children's travel is covered in the divorce decree already so a letter is not needed and send him a copy of the order.

Panda39

[soundofmusicgirl]

My husband talked to the pediatrician and gave him a quick run down of "current events" he also shared about the T from hell. The pediatrician is definitely very aware that something is not right with BPDxw and that she is very manipulative. He even mentioned it to us. He also mentioned that she requested some very strange things from him and that he already was not inclined to follow her request but wanted to double check with my husband. He actually said he is not sure wether my SS`s are still his patients as he has not seen them for about 4 months. Usually BPDxw takes them about once a month or in winter months more often for frequent sick calls. Pediatrician also said he had no idea about T from hell and shared our opinion and views.

DH asked BPDxw wether she has changed pediatricians, but she says no. So we will see.

I have to say it is nice and a huge relief when finally a professional understands the struggles and seems to have realized that not all is kosher with BPDxw.