Feeling alone

[leia24]

Hi all, First post here. My DD 24, was diagnosed with BP1 3 yrs ago and is now in residential ( second stay, different facility) and is now diagnosed with BPD. It sure explains a lot and I am just shocked it took so long for her to finally get the right diagnosis. Feeling alone and scared for her future.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi Leia24,
 Welcome and thanks for writing in.  This could be looked at as a smashing for your daughter- she is getting the help she needs.  Now the larger work is for you to steady yourself.  You joined here and that is a huge first step, as we all need a network of our own separate from our adult bpd kids.  Even though you feel alone, you are not, as we are here with you and have been where you are now.  Some of us ( me included) are waiting for our adult bpd kids to even accept help. I would suggest writing to us as you have need, and read some suggested books from the library here.  One book that has helped a lot of us is, 'Stop Walking on Eggshells".  You will be surprised to learn in this book the best way to help our bpd  child is to help ourselves first.  Does your daughter accept her diagnosis at all? 

[AlwaysAnxious]

Hi Leia

You are definitely not alone. I'm new to this too though my dd is undiagnosed and doesn't want any help.  I "wandered" upon Oz and the people here are so amazing, supportive and full of amazing ideas to help you through many of the questions that will likely pop up for you.  Welcome to Oz.

Always Anxious