My question is, has anyone ever ended thier No Contact, and what was their experience? I don't have any expectations that our relationship will magically heal, but I wonder what the experience and aftermath could be like?
Hello and welcome to the family! And great question!
Unfortunately, the experiences tend to be mixed when it comes to reconnecting. Many here have done it successfully, myself included, but not all of those stories have happy endings. In some of them, everything was wonderful for a period of time, then everything blew up. In others, there was lots of bitterness in the reconnection and it quickly brought up old patterns and memories.
I think to give you a better answer, we'd have to talk about your motives. I mean, you've already laid them out nicely- mom's getting old, she doesn't necessarily need you with the big family, but it would be nice to smooth things over.
Are there any other reasons? What about grandkids?
A common "theme" here seems to have been around major life events, holidays, etc. Do you get together with your siblings at all for July 4th, Thanksgiving, or Christmas? That would be the easiest way to "test the waters" without actually diving in.
