Advice for everyone on NC and electronic devices security

[rzr14]

Hello everyone haven't been on for sometime, but wanted to give some advice here for everyone to keep NC and protect yourself from spyware and similar things. Not sure if this has been discuss before.

It's been almost a month since I talked with my exBPDgf, in the last few months of talking with her. I learn as much has I could on this subject, watch her behavior, plus with her help form her with insight into how she thinks. In the end learn that there is more to this disorder then we think.

But getting to the point of this thread, in the end she made a mistake that lead me to finding out she been spying on my electronic devices. It started one night I wasn't by my cell phone, she called didn't leave a voicemail. I called her back talked to her, and that was the end of the night. What happened next was I noticed that a voicemail she left on my phone that I had for evidence was gone. She know I had saved it on my phone, because I sent it to her bf explaining what she been doing. Anyway I come to learn that if you call someone and they don't pick up when you get to the voicemail part you can hit the pound key enter the passcode and get in. My voicemail password wasn't strong it was easy to figure out. I then talked to her in a round about way saying I think someone access my voicemail and deleted some voicemail messages. What her words to me was oh yeah that can be done if you know the passcode. Big red flag when she said this, plus no sympathy towards me and wasn't interested in talking about it.

Well this wasn't the end of it, since we got back together months ago my cell phone was acting up once in awhile. It would shut down when we would take on the phone sometimes and reboot it's self. Battery would get hot and sometimes the phone would act up. I realized she knew things that I didn't tell her about, so after figuring out the voicemail issue. I realized she must have spyware on my phone. I once again in a round about way was saying to her about someone might have spyware on my phone. She wasn't interested talking about it, which was another red flag for me. She realized I was catching on tried to play the love bombing on me. I kept my phone locked so she couldn't access my phone physically. So one day left my phone sit in the open charging it to test this theory out, walked way was doing a few things to I heard a loud bang and my phone falling down some stairs! I asked what happened she blamed it on the kids. This never happened before, plus no apology to me just blamed me for leaving it lay. The kids were right next to her sitting down she was the one standing no way the kids did it.
The volume button was sticking and their was no volume, I ended up fixing it when i talked to her again on the phone. She asked if i was getting a new phone! I told her no i fixed it, she wasn't happy with this i believe she was trying to destroy the phone. In the end i have gone nc rebooted my phone to factory and now have no problems. I have notice that a section of my conversation with texting her was missing on my phone. That had important info she told me i could of used for evidence but it's gone now. Plus the times I was going NC with her I believe she had the capability to keep taps on me. I did some research online and found that they sell spyware to parents to keep track of their children. Everything from text messages, calls, gps, apps. It's legal has long has they own the phone, but someone still could install it on your phone without permission.

My point I want to get across to everyone if you think this might be happening to you, it might be a good idea to scan your phone for spyware. Or just reboot your phone to factory, protect yourself and your evidence.