This is My Story Part 1

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I’m not really sure how to start this off, I think what I am more looking to find the thoughts and opinions of other people about my Ex girlfriend. This is a little bit of a long story so I’m apologizing now, but there is a fair bit to tell.
I was married for 13 years, and when that broke down I went back out to the dating world. Not having had much experience in that department, I truly didn’t know all the things I should, or recognized the “red Flags” that should have told me to run.
After a few months on my own I started looking online to find people to go out with. I went on a few dates and had a bit of fun, but did not really meet anyone that I felt any kind of connection with. I then started talking to this girl online and right from the start I could tell there was something a bit different about her.  She too had just come out of a marriage and was looking to find someone to connect with. Right from the first few messages I found she was super easy to talk to and had a great sense of humor.
The first time we met, we agreed to meet for a drink at a place close to where we both lived. I arrived first and was sitting at the table waiting for her when she. Right away I could see there was something intriguing about her. She sat down and said, “I’m really nervous”, I told her to relax and that we were just going to have a drink and talk and that there was no pressure. By the end of that night we were talking like we had known each other for years. I walked her to her car and we kissed a little and I asked her to text me when she made it home safe and then I wished her goodnight.
Two days later was my birthday, and my boys who then were 5-7 years old were taking me out for dinner. She and I had talked that day and I asked if she wanted to come over and hang out after my boys went to bed. I truly did not have anything in mind by this invite other than I really enjoyed talking to her and wanted to see her again.
The thing that I thought strange was that I had never even thought of having a woman over if my kids were there awake or sleeping but with her I really felt comfortable and saw nothing wrong with it. She ended up coming over and we talked about our Ex’s and the lack of sex we both had had when we were married. I said something about never getting birthday sex, and she was surprised to hear me say that. She then asked if I wanted to have sex on my birthday. Honestly, I know that having my kids in the next room asleep, may not have been the best time, but we snuck off to a dark corner of my place and so goes it. Then next day she asked if I wanted to come over to her place for a drink and I immediately said yes.
 We met later that evening and within 20 minutes of be being there she was all over me. The night ended when the sun was coming up the next day. Never in my life had I felt so open and passionate and freeing. After that night we began spending all out free time together and the times that we were not together we spent texting and emailing.

After the first three weeks, she informed me that she was deleting her dating profile but told me that she didn’t expect me to. I did feel a little obligated but in reality I did not want to keep looking so I deleted mine as well.
Another week passed and then all of a sudden I was starting to get one word responses to my texts. I would ask her how she was and how her day was and all I got was, “I’m Fine”, “Tired” that kind of thing.
The next day she messaged me to tell me that there was something bothering her and she felt like she needed to talk to me about it. She told me that she was diagnosed a few years ago with deep depression, and ADD/ADHD. She said that she took medication and that she was fine. I truly did not find this to be an issue for me and I told her so.
From that point on we spent even more time together.  She began to tell me more about her past and her ex and what a mean and abusive person he was. She told me that she had been sexually assaulted by one of husband’s friends and that he did not believe her and called her a slut and so on. She said that she was checked into a mental hospital right after that and when she came out he told her that he wanted a divorce. I was mortified that a person could be that horrible. I told her how awful that was and that even on my worst of days, I couldn’t imagine treating another person like that.
She would often tell me things like, “No one has ever loved me like you do” and “ you’re the greatest person I ever met” and “ I can’t imagine my life with any other person”, and so on.
From that point on things went very smooth and after six months of dating I felt it was time for my kids to meet her. I was nervous for them to meet but then when she hit it off with right away, everything was great. From then on the four of us spent time together. We would take trips to the cottage and really just enjoyed spending time with each other.
It wasn’t long until things small things were starting to change. I would occasionally receive a long text from her if she was unhappy with something I did or something I said. She also began to challenge me as to why I was with her. There were more than a few times she would say something, and I would not even have had a chance to give a response and she was storming away with tears in her eyes. But every time she reacted like that, she would say “ I’m sorry, I’m just emotional, I did not mean what I said. You’re the best person in my life, and I never want that to change”.  Then things would be back to normal again.
We moved in together the following summer. We got our new place all set up, and it was starting to feel like home. After a few months we started to settle in and life became more of a routine. During the week, we started spending more time staying home, watching TV and would only really talk about our work day. We lived for the weekend. One day she snapped at me that she did not want to live with someone as young as me, who seemed so old. I have always been a person that tends to keep a routine and I suppose that was starting to bother her.

That weekend she went away to visit her family. The day she was coming home, she sent me a text saying that she really missed me and a picture of her almost topless. After she came home our lives went back to normal and we continued on as we had before.

[redriver]

I’m not really sure how to start this off, I think what I am more looking to find the thoughts and opinions of other people about my Ex girlfriend. This is a little bit of a long story so I’m apologizing now, but there is a fair bit to tell.
I was married for 13 years, and when that broke down I went back out to the dating world. Not having had much experience in that department, I truly didn’t know all the things I should, or recognized the “red Flags” that should have told me to run.
After a few months on my own I started looking online to find people to go out with. I went on a few dates and had a bit of fun, but did not really meet anyone that I felt any kind of connection with. I then started talking to this girl online and right from the start I could tell there was something a bit different about her.  She too had just come out of a marriage and was looking to find someone to connect with. Right from the first few messages I found she was super easy to talk to and had a great sense of humor.
The first time we met, we agreed to meet for a drink at a place close to where we both lived. I arrived first and was sitting at the table waiting for her when she. Right away I could see there was something intriguing about her. She sat down and said, “I’m really nervous”, I told her to relax and that we were just going to have a drink and talk and that there was no pressure. By the end of that night we were talking like we had known each other for years. I walked her to her car and we kissed a little and I asked her to text me when she made it home safe and then I wished her goodnight.
Two days later was my birthday, and my boys who then were 5-7 years old were taking me out for dinner. She and I had talked that day and I asked if she wanted to come over and hang out after my boys went to bed. I truly did not have anything in mind by this invite other than I really enjoyed talking to her and wanted to see her again.
The thing that I thought strange was that I had never even thought of having a woman over if my kids were there awake or sleeping but with her I really felt comfortable and saw nothing wrong with it. She ended up coming over and we talked about our Ex’s and the lack of sex we both had had when we were married. I said something about never getting birthday sex, and she was surprised to hear me say that. She then asked if I wanted to have sex on my birthday. Honestly, I know that having my kids in the next room asleep, may not have been the best time, but we snuck off to a dark corner of my place and so goes it. Then next day she asked if I wanted to come over to her place for a drink and I immediately said yes.
 We met later that evening and within 20 minutes of be being there she was all over me. The night ended when the sun was coming up the next day. Never in my life had I felt so open and passionate and freeing. After that night we began spending all out free time together and the times that we were not together we spent texting and emailing.

After the first three weeks, she informed me that she was deleting her dating profile but told me that she didn’t expect me to. I did feel a little obligated but in reality I did not want to keep looking so I deleted mine as well.
Another week passed and then all of a sudden I was starting to get one word responses to my texts. I would ask her how she was and how her day was and all I got was, “I’m Fine”, “Tired” that kind of thing.
The next day she messaged me to tell me that there was something bothering her and she felt like she needed to talk to me about it. She told me that she was diagnosed a few years ago with deep depression, and ADD/ADHD. She said that she took medication and that she was fine. I truly did not find this to be an issue for me and I told her so.
From that point on we spent even more time together.  She began to tell me more about her past and her ex and what a mean and abusive person he was. She told me that she had been sexually assaulted by one of husband’s friends and that he did not believe her and called her a slut and so on. She said that she was checked into a mental hospital right after that and when she came out he told her that he wanted a divorce. I was mortified that a person could be that horrible. I told her how awful that was and that even on my worst of days, I couldn’t imagine treating another person like that.
She would often tell me things like, “No one has ever loved me like you do” and “ you’re the greatest person I ever met” and “ I can’t imagine my life with any other person”, and so on.
From that point on things went very smooth and after six months of dating I felt it was time for my kids to meet her. I was nervous for them to meet but then when she hit it off with right away, everything was great. From then on the four of us spent time together. We would take trips to the cottage and really just enjoyed spending time with each other.
It wasn’t long until things small things were starting to change. I would occasionally receive a long text from her if she was unhappy with something I did or something I said. She also began to challenge me as to why I was with her. There were more than a few times she would say something, and I would not even have had a chance to give a response and she was storming away with tears in her eyes. But every time she reacted like that, she would say “ I’m sorry, I’m just emotional, I did not mean what I said. You’re the best person in my life, and I never want that to change”.  Then things would be back to normal again.
We moved in together the following summer. We got our new place all set up, and it was starting to feel like home. After a few months we started to settle in and life became more of a routine. During the week, we started spending more time staying home, watching TV and would only really talk about our work day. We lived for the weekend. One day she snapped at me that she did not want to live with someone as young as me, who seemed so old. I have always been a person that tends to keep a routine and I suppose that was starting to bother her.

That weekend she went away to visit her family. The day she was coming home, she sent me a text saying that she really missed me and a picture of her almost topless. After she came home our lives went back to normal and we continued on as we had before.